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Thread: Am I sexist?

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    Speaking as a boss where people have tried to sue me plenty of times and lost - no, she can't do anything to you. You won't be penalize for not asking her to assist in an out of scope request.

    And if anyone asks, do not use terms Male or Female unless you a doctor or cop - use Woman or Man to identify.

    "Female" is a scientific term that refers to the sex of a species that is capable of producing children. The term "woman" refers specifically to human beings, while "female" could refer to any species. The term female is reducing a woman to her reproductive abilities and now can be seen as dehumanizing and exclusionary. I know it's science, but for work, and for you, really, use terms, "Men" and "Women"

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    While the woman clearly overreacted, it may have had more to do with being annoyed by the boxes being there in the first place, then only compounded by the suggestion that they would remain there until the male came in.

    I wouldn't sweat this. No offense was intended, and some things are just best relegated to a too-bad-so-sad category. If someone wants to hold a grudge over an otherwise minor annoyance, then that's on them, not you.

    I'd avoid feeding the beast by being too apologetic. Sometimes the suggestion to just get over it is best modeled by our own behavior, while catering to oversensitivity only justifies the unjustifiable and invites more of same.

    Head high, and plow forward without looking back.

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    She might have just been in a bad mood about something. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just one of those things. If she had a problem with it again, then you would know it was a sticking point with her and could adjust accordingly. But as of now, I wouldn't think too much of it.

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    Do you know what buddy , it's all a minefield these days .... not just sexism but everything 'ism ...

    Don't dwell on it ...it's fine .

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    Originally Posted by jul-els
    She might have just been in a bad mood about something. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just one of those things. If she had a problem with it again, then you would know it was a sticking point with her and could adjust accordingly. But as of now, I wouldn't think too much of it.
    Sure, but if she dwells on it, don't adjust. You're within your rights to not want injury to your own back by estimating who might be better able to carry their half of the weight.

    Sometimes a banana is just a banana.

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    Originally Posted by Keyman
    Like the time I got yelled at by a female co-worker for not leaping to me feet to help her carry a heavy box, but said nothing to the girl who sat next to me. I would have helped had she asked, but the expectation that I should be there to help because I'm a guy could be considered sexist in the same way.
    I agree. It all comes to communication. That's it. Ask and you shall receive. Pretty simple stuff.

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    As a female that has worked in two jobs that required carrying around (office) boxes, I understand the feeling - but I don't think it's enough reason to react the way she did. Perhaps she was already upset about something or because she has been increasingly aware of similar situations. Honestly, don't take the situation too seriously, I guess she just needed to let some steam off!

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