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Thread: Caught boyfriend leaving hearts under other womanís Instagram photo

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    Originally Posted by j.man
    Serious question, but are you a boomer?

    I can't say I wouldn't find it juvenile, but it is common enough practice in this age where the softcore porn scene has kinda been commandeered by social media (especially Instagram) and other otherwise interactive media. A whole bunch of people leave "100," wide eye, fire, and heart emojis. I would sometimes go to a pic a friend liked specifically to go down the comment section. They're often comedy gold. Once saw some guy comment, "ur ass is fine as wine... ass wine."

    So yeah, I could see it a loss of respect thing imagining him sitting down and scrolling through lingerie pics and leaving emojis. And if that's a boundary you want to set for yourself, that's plenty fair. But he knows he's not going to get the time of day with an Instagram model simply for leaving a heart emoji. She definitely knows he's not. You should know he's not. I wouldn't call it some scheme or even a dangerous step. Just cringy behavior. In any case, if it's a deal breaker, leave him.

    And just to echo the rest, slow down in the future.
    I agree.

    This guy is getting all the heat while your own trust issues, that have nothing to do with him are being ignored.

    Heís essentially being punished for others past sins. Did he get to say anything about your snooping? Letís be honest Instagram likes dont just pop up in your feed like Ďhey your boyfriend liked this, this weekí you looked for the information, you looked for it, you Ďfound ití self fulfilling prophesy.

    Is he guilty is he innocent, who am I to say, but basing your relationship on Instagram likes past the age of 16? I wouldnít want to be with you, clearly this will simply follow you from relationship to relationship.

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    It wasnít just a like it was also a heart comment.

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    Who cares how I found out, if he didnít do it then thereís be nothing to find out

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    The likes I personally donít care about. But a comment is like a call for attention.

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    Is this something you plan to do in all your future relationships? Search for bad behavior because you don't trust?

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    I don't agree. I think everyone has a set of values they want or look for in partner. Some people don't care if their partner looks around, others aren't okay with that.
    It's fine, people choose someone as a partner based on what they are okay with and not okay with.
    I don't see that as a trust issue, per se, but more of what is attractive and what isn't. What qualities you like in them or what you don't.

    Early days like this will show someone who they are with and what to expect and it's not always pretty.
    I personally wouldn't want a man who barely started dating me and is lusting over other women. Not a good start in my books.

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    I wouldnít say I was searching for bad behaviors because I donít trust him. Thatís what social media is.. you look at other peopleís pictures.. you look to see whoís in his friends list. Itís all out there. And then I found the heart comment? It turned me off

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    Sherrysher - understood. And agree we all have standards but what about her snooping? Is that not something to be judged? Why does he only get his actions criticized?

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    Exactly itís a new relationship.. you shouldnít be lusting over other woman. Why be with a man who brings out those irrational fears in you.

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    Itís not snooping if itís on a public platform like Instagram for the world to see. I can understand if i went through his phone. But I didnít.. itís public information.

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