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    Look this is what abusers do. They isolate you from your own family and make you feel ashamed to tell them anything. They make you doubt everything that you say or do. Him and his mother are no longer your problem. And you need to tell your family what happened.

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    He was so lovely inbetween our arguments
    that's quite the low bar you've set for yourself to stay with someone who is lovely between beating the crap out of you. I'm glad you are now with your father. Now, stop talking to the monster you married.

    Stop lying for him out of your own embarrassment. You yourself need to get into therapy so you can, with the help of a professional, figure out why you didn't leave him the minute he hit you the first time. You don't stay with people who beat you up. You leave and you don't look back and you certainly don't worry about embarrassment to the point that you don't tell what he did. The people that love you will help you to overcome your own low self worth but first they need to know the truth in order to help.

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    He has brainwashed you into this type of crazy thinking. Ignore it.
    Originally Posted by Ivy21
    do you guys think I did wrong by giving his mothers address as I feel terrible for this..cause bad things were said to her but she has forgiven me for that..

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    Thanks you guys for your replys. And yes you are quite right in saying that a very low bar I've set for myself. 😔 I just loved him so much I suppose it wasnt good enough..and I only ever wanted to be with one man for life. And it just took so long for me to find it 34 yrs!! I'm just crushed...heartbroken...devastated...a complete and utter reckon...he was my first love too..but I suppose it was never love and I'm just that idiot that was holding on to a lie within my own mind I was overlooking it thinking I would make it work. It's just that I wanted a family of my own so much and everything to be ok ...but now I've lost everything and he dont give two f****. God help me and God bless you all thanks much appreciated..❤

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    Originally Posted by Ivy21
    Thanks you guys for your replys. And yes you are quite right in saying that a very low bar I've set for myself. 😔 I just loved him so much I suppose it wasnt good enough..and I only ever wanted to be with one man for life. And it just took so long for me to find it 34 yrs!! I'm just crushed...heartbroken...devastated...a complete and utter reckon...he was my first love too..but I suppose it was never love and I'm just that idiot that was holding on to a lie within my own mind I was overlooking it thinking I would make it work. It's just that I wanted a family of my own so much and everything to be ok ...but now I've lost everything and he dont give two f****. God help me and God bless you all thanks much appreciated..❤
    Listen: You are going to be alright now that you are away from him and you're way better off without him then you ever were or ever would be with him. 34 yrs old In this day and age is not old and you have plenty of time to find a good man who you could have a child with or, perhaps he is in a divorced situation himself who has children that you can one day learn to love as your own.

    Please get yourself into therapy to help you overcome any post traumatic stress you have from being with this animal and to help you form good personal boundaries that will protect you from falling for men like him in your future.

    In time, and with a good building of your self worth and confidence, you won't feel like you do but rather you'll be feeling free and happy and so glad he's out of your life.

    I wish you all the best. Please love yourself and forget him and what could have been because focusing on that will do nothing to move you past this pain you are feeling.

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    Thank you ❤ and your son right I'm thinking of the few good memories and my wedding day and how happy I was....I thought it just wasn't gona happen for me and when it did it was devastating to say the least...but I honestly appreciate your time and opinion..God bless you..🙏❤

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    You haven't "lost" anything but a guy who is quite happy to beat the crud out of you.

    You stay with him and you'll never meet a man who cherishes you and treats you lovingly ALL the time, not just in between beatings.

    Please tell your father so he can help you. It would break my heart if I found out my beautiful daughter was being beaten by her husband and she didn't tell me. I would want to help her.

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