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    I would be more pissed of that he is sharing his sh1t all over the shower ..ewww ..please .

    I would sit him in a sheep dip and tell him to crack on .

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    If he really is doing it in the shower that might be the most private place for him to do it at the time and, like others said, he may just still be horny.

    I also have a higher libido than my partner from what I can tell. I'm not sure how often he masturbates but I've never heard him. I masturbate fairly often but it's easier for me to do that in the next room if we're not having sex. I have occasionally done it right after good sex too while he was in the bathroom because I haven't been able to get off during sex before so sometimes after sex I'll still feel horny and have to get off. It definitely doesn't mean the sex wasn't good. I love sex way more than masturbating because of the intimacy and pretty much just everything about it. lol.

    I think if my partner was masturbating near me and we hadn't had sex and he knew I was in the mood that would be different and frustrating but if we just had great sex and he already got off and he was just still horny after I'd think that was kinda hot.

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    Originally Posted by pippy longstocking
    I would be more pissed of that he is sharing his sh1t all over the shower ..ewww ..please .

    I would sit him in a sheep dip and tell him to crack on .
    I just died laughing 😂

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    Whenever I would hear my partner masturbating in the shower I would get upset.
    How does one "hear someone masturbating" while they are in the shower? Is he a moaning and a groaning his way to victory?

    He got up and had breakfast, and within 20 mins of us having had sex, he was masturbating in the shower again.
    How is it you are spying on him so intensely that you know that he masturbated in the shower after breakfast when I assume you are busy elsewhere?

    Why do you care when or how much he masturbates? He is still having sex with you and hasn't substituted his private time to the point you're not on his sexual radar anymore.

    Leave him alone because as you say, you've come to realize its normal. Now you just have to realize that his private time is just that and that it's no reflection on you or your bedroom skills.

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    How does one "hear someone masturbating" while they are in the shower? Is he a moaning and a groaning his way to victory?
    LOL! Sorry, this gave me a chuckle.

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    Originally Posted by ThatwasThen
    How does one "hear someone masturbating" while they are in the shower? Is he a moaning and a groaning his way to victory?



    How is it you are spying on him so intensely that you know that he masturbated in the shower after breakfast when I assume you are busy elsewhere?

    Why do you care when or how much he masturbates? He is still having sex with you and hasn't substituted his private time to the point you're not on his sexual radar anymore.

    Leave him alone because as you say, you've come to realize its normal. Now you just have to realize that his private time is just that and that it's no reflection on you or your bedroom skills.
    Sorry, just read the quote below after I posted without reading (my bad).
    Originally Posted by Dogmadwoman
    I can hear the fapping (sorry I hate that word) and heavy breathing. Plus he always takes a lot longer in the shower. We live in a small space so it's hard not to hear.. I'm not sat outside the door listening or anything weird :)
    Ya know if I heard the sound of a vigorous "fap" I'd be in there helping him. Is oral sex off limits in your home? Knock first before you enter... you don't want to embarrass him.

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    My ex caught me having "alone time" (in his defense I was doing it in bed right next to him) while I thought he was asleep. He helped me finish and then he was so turned on we had sex again.

    Win-win for me!

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    I'm going through something similar. I have a normal to high sex drive and I love having sex with my husband but he watches porn whilst I'm dying to have sex with him or he'll have sex with me then watch porn afterwards. Or just watch porn and give me excuses about how he is tired or sleepy. We will have fights about not having enough sex or him turning me down, I leave to house for fresh air and he'll masturbate to porn.

    He says he's quit porn but all the signs say he still is. At one point he even had me convinced he had an erectile problem caused by anxiety when he was just wanking off too much to the point of not being able to have sex with a human coz he'd lose his erection.

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    Honestly, it sounds like your husband is addicted to porn. Unless he wants help, it won't get better.

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