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    Please help with understanding contradictory behavior of one girl

    Hi guys, I would really appreciate some advice.

    There is a girl whom I really like. Whenever we run into each other at the college cafeteria, we talk for like 15-20 minutes. She always seems to be very happy to talk to me and touches my arms and shoulders at least 5 times during each conversation. When we are about to leave, she always tells me "Let me know if you want to have dinner some time." or something similar.

    However, when I follow up on her suggestion and text her to have dinner with me 2-4 days later, she ignores / does not reply to my message. The next time we run into each other, she again acts all glad to see me and pretends like nothing happened. I know for a fact that she does not have a boyfriend, and I think she rarely hangs out with guys in general.

    Does anyone know what does this girl want?

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    Do you have the right number?

    You really have only two options here. Either next time you see her ask her straight up or quit wasting your time with her.

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    Ask her out in person.
    Originally Posted by AdAstra
    Whenever we run into each other at the college cafeteria, we talk for like 15-20 minutes.When we are about to leave, she always tells me "Let me know if you want to have dinner some time." or something similar.

    However, when I follow up on her suggestion and text her to have dinner with me 2-4 days later, she ignores / does not reply to my message.

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    Call her on the phone and ask her out.

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    Ask her out face-to-face, not over messaging.

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    Originally Posted by AdAstra


    Does anyone know what does this girl want?
    She doesn't want an invitation over text. Ask her out face to face or at least a phone call.

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    She doesn't want an invitation over text. Ask her out face to face or at least a phone call.
    Hm. That's certainly possible, but it seems kind of rude to me on her part, especially when she said she wanted to go out. But in any case, to eliminate any possible ambiguity, I agree that he should just ask her out in person and get a clear reply.

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    I agree with others. Ask her out for dinner in person and if she continues to make excuses and decline, don't take her seriously anymore. Move on.

    You can still remain acquaintances whenever you run into each other. However, don't expect anymore than that.

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    For god's sake, pick up a telephone and use your voice. Say the following when she answers the phone. Use your own variables.

    "<<Mildred>> would you please go to to dinner with me at Che Le Moderately Expensive Exotic Food Bistro" on Saturday at 7?"

    "They make a great <<some damned dish>> and the view of the <<beach/mountains/clouds/city lights>> is amazing!"

    Then be quiet.

    Her answer is either Yes/No, or she suggests another day.

    If there is a No, then never ask again. Otherwise, you have a date.


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