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Thread: Is Woman I've dated 1 week going too fast or is it me?

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    Is Woman I've dated 1 week going too fast or is it me?

    I met a woman from a dating APP exactly 1 week ago. She told me she was really attracted to me and 'm really attracted to her and we hit it off. We've seen each other twice since we met. I'd arranged our 3rd date for this weekend. Ive not gone in for the kiss yet. Ive just been taking it easy and getting to know her slowly. Anyway we were chatting via text tonight when she said lots of things like she expected more flirting and more communication from me? Otherwise she couldn't see a future. She also said my lack of eagerness was a turn off!


    I'm just wondering is it me or is this all too quick? I've only known her a week, had two dates with her in that time as well as texting and one face time. I thought that would have been enough and was a nice start but think she's expecting a higher level of flirting and communication from me. She's doesnt think i'm that interested in her even though I've told her I am and made a 3rd date.

    Is this needy or insecure from her or really a lack of effort from me?

    Thoughts?

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    Hit the brakes and make a u turn. Red flags abound. Leave this octopus in your rear view mirror.

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    Yeah, too much too fast. Head for the hills and dont look back!

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    Agree with the above.

    I don't quite see this as going too fast as just...well, not going anywhere worth going. She's already trying to control you, mold you, school you to meet some idea in her head—what that looks like in a month or six is not something I'd want to see. Third date would be canceled if I was in your shoes.

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    OP if she is criticizing you after a week... it means you aren't compatible.

    If it were me I would be cancelling the date and walking away.

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    Yikes!

    What next? One month in she demands a proposal?

    Yeah run!

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    Sounds like shes going to great lengths to find herself a Sugar Daddy. Run Forest, Run...

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    is she just out of some relationship?

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    No funnily enough she's not.

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    Too much too soon and poor communication. Tell her you're not a match and move forward.

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    Originally Posted by anewhope
    we were chatting via text tonight when she said lots of things like she expected more flirting and more communication from me?

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