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Thread: Almost 30 but this Girl is making me feel like 15 again

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    Almost 30 but this Girl is making me feel like 15 again

    Hey everybody,


    I decided to join this website and expose my current situation with this girl. I've been holding this information all by myself and decided to put it all here, in order to get some opinions and guidance. So here it goes:

    I'm a 29 year old guy, working for this company for almost 5 years. On last November, this girl, 26 year old, started to work there and, from the moment I saw her, I felt like a teen all over again. I felt loads of attraction at first sight and I got the hint she noticed me too. So from then on, we use to cross by each other on an almost daily basis (at the mid afternoon break). I've noticed she looking at me, searching for me when we're on the same room, smiling at me, being nervous around me, sitting and pointing her feet at me (gosh, I sound like a creep...).

    One day, I was on Instagram and I bumped into her profile. I was hesitant at first, but ultimately decided to follow her. She accepted the invitatiojn immediately and did the same with my profile. From then on, she started to watch every story and liking every pic I post (either the ones I'm alone or in group).

    So this last Friday, something happened. I'm arriving at work and she comes out of a car parked right in front of me. We immediately locked eyes and start smiling. Heck, I think time stopped :) So we talked for a bit and she was extremely friendly.

    On that same day, I posted another pic on Instagram and she liked it again. So I decided to chat with her, something like this:
    Me:
    - Thank you for all the likes. You're really boosting my influencer ego.
    Her (almost immediately):
    - Anything I can help with, just ring me (lol emoji)
    - A kiss for you, have a nice weekend (shy emoji).
    ...

    I know, we talked but, for some reason, she immediately ended the conversation. I was expecting it to last a bit longer, so I got really confused by this.

    Today (Monday), we walked by each other again, noticed each other and that's it.

    I'm really confused about this. I'm going completely bonkers (!) for this girl but I'm getting extremely cautious. We work in the same company (not on the same subjects/department) and I don't want to cause a fuss about this with my job and with our colleagues. But I really want to get to know her better.

    What do you think about all this. All opinions are welcomed.


    Thank you for reading and replying :)

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    You actually wrote that? "A kiss for you"???

    Oh boy...

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    You actually wrote that? "A kiss for you"???

    Oh boy...
    She did this, not me.

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    Anything I can help with, just ring me (lol emoji)
    Well if that isn't an invitation I don't know what is... Maybe she's waiting for you to ask her out???? Trying to get to know her over Insta is a crappy way to get to know someone.
    - A kiss for you, have a nice weekend (shy emoji).
    It could be a green light to let you know that she likes you.

    Having said that: Its a slippery slope to be dating someone at work because if it doesn't pan out, or it does but it doesn't last, then you have to look at her everyday and it is, I'm sure, pretty hard to get over someone you are seeing everyday.

    What is your company's policy on employees dating one another?

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    I agree with TwT on two fronts: one, seems she opened the door pretty clearly for you to ask her out; two, there is nothing lamer than trying to use social media to get to know someone or gauge anything beyond cursory interest. That's what tweens and teenagers do, which is why, well, you're feeling like a teenager.

    So, assuming your company doesn't have any hard rules about employees dating, and assuming you can be mature enough to remain professional should things not work out, why not ask her out for a cup of coffee and glass of wine so you can get to know her away from likes and story views?

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    Originally Posted by noname123
    She did this, not me.
    Whew! That's a relief lol.

    So, how does your company view dating coworkers?

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    Originally Posted by ThatwasThen
    Well if that isn't an invitation I don't know what is... Maybe she's waiting for you to ask her out???? Trying to get to know her over Insta is a crappy way to get to know someone.
    It could be a green light to let you know that she likes you.

    Having said that: Its a slippery slope to be dating someone at work because if it doesn't pan out, or it does but it doesn't last, then you have to look at her everyday and it is, I'm sure, pretty hard to get over someone you are seeing everyday.

    What is your company's policy on employees dating one another?
    No policy. In fact, I know some people working there who met each other at the company and married, and are still work there.

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    Originally Posted by noname123
    I know, we talked but, for some reason, she immediately ended the conversation.
    I didn't quite understand this part. I get that you're paraphrasing your exchange, but from what you offered it was you, not she, who ended the conversation. She said something, you did not reply, correct?

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    She's definitely flirting with you, and that is a sign of interest. I for one have a strict policy of not dating co-workers, and I've passed up more than one that I was very interested in for that reason. If it doesn't work out, you then set yourself up for loss on more than one level, and one of those levels involves your livelihood. If it were me, I'd pass on it, but that's me. Tread carefully. There are a lot of good women in the world that you don't have to go to work with everyday.

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    Originally Posted by bluecastle
    I didn't quite understand this part. I get that you're paraphrasing your exchange, but from what you offered it was you, not she, who ended the conversation. She said something, you did not reply, correct?
    I thanked for the likes, she replied and said goodbye.

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