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    I get you.
    Not only is about striking a balance as Andrina puts it, relationship are about compromise and sometimes putting your partners needs above your own.

    When you've been on your own for long enough, all these can become a challenge. Especially when you aren't accustomed to being accountable to anyone. There is always something appealing about that part of single-dom.

    Yes, I hammer out my `me' time but because I am in a relationship I do need to consider my partners needs as well.
    Sometimes, there isn't enough hours in a day.

    What you are experiencing is normal.

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    I get you.
    Not only is about striking a balance as Andrina puts it, relationship are about compromise and sometimes putting your partners needs above your own.

    When you've been on your own for long enough, all these can become a challenge. Especially when you aren't accustomed to being accountable to anyone. There is always something appealing about that part of single-dom.

    Yes, I hammer out my `me' time but because I am in a relationship I do need to consider my partners needs as well.
    Sometimes, there isn't enough hours in a day.

    What you are experiencing is normal.
    i agree with this. Well put. Do what you want other than what you promised not to do which is easy for you -you don't want to date others or have sex with others. Be a reliable consistent person to her -but be that way with yourself too. Say no or some form of compromise if you're itching for a no plans kind of day on a Saturday - so for example tell her to go and make other plans and you two can keep things tentative that day. I guess from my perspective since you're not living with her and have no babies with her you have lots more space and freedom to have a free as a bird day.

    Watch the episode of Sex and The City when her boyfriend Aidan first moves in and she's whining about needing space and me time. I believe it's Season 4 episode 13 to be precise.

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    This is what happens when you start dating someone you have already known for awhile. There is no newness, or discovery of who they are...so that big spontaneous spark will miss it's mark. On the other side of the coin, you could be simply emotionally attached and you are mistaking it as romantic interest. Good luck sorting things out.

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