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    Success story update

    Hi friends,

    Itís certainly been awhile for me coming here as Iíve been busy with real life, but I thought Iíd give another update as to whatís going on.

    Iím not going to get into specifics as that would be too long of a post. If you really want my backstory you can probably find it in my post history. Long story short I had admitted to talking to another girl while in a long term relationship. Her trust was broken understandably and she called things off.

    I immediately went NC for approximately 8-9 months while I worked on my issues, seeing a therapist, and furthering my career. I never stopped believing that one day we would end up together again.

    I broke NC, showed up at her work unannounced and we were able to sit down and talk things out, eventually getting back to get her after slowly dating again for about a month.

    This was about 2 years ago. Today, I can happily say we are now married (tied the knot last September) and we recently bought our first house 2 months ago. Things are definitely on the up and up. And we added a new puppy to the family.

    So there it is, my current update as to where I(we) stand. Do I recommend breaking NC as the dumpee and just showing up without warning? Probably not. I took a risk, but every situation is different. I knew what kind of relationship we had and I knew the type of girl she is, so I made that calculated risk. It doesnít work with every girl though! Take note.

    With that said, hope youíre all doing better in some capacity and I hope you all find love with either someone new or rekindle that magic with your old flame.

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    Originally Posted by rollie
    Hi friends,

    Itís certainly been awhile for me coming here as Iíve been busy with real life, but I thought Iíd give another update as to whatís going on.

    Iím not going to get into specifics as that would be too long of a post. If you really want my backstory you can probably find it in my post history. Long story short I had admitted to talking to another girl while in a long term relationship. Her trust was broken understandably and she called things off.

    I immediately went NC for approximately 8-9 months while I worked on my issues, seeing a therapist, and furthering my career. I never stopped believing that one day we would end up together again.

    I broke NC, showed up at her work unannounced and we were able to sit down and talk things out, eventually getting back to get her after slowly dating again for about a month.

    This was about 2 years ago. Today, I can happily say we are now married (tied the knot last September) and we recently bought our first house 2 months ago. Things are definitely on the up and up. And we added a new puppy to the family.

    So there it is, my current update as to where I(we) stand. Do I recommend breaking NC as the dumpee and just showing up without warning? Probably not. I took a risk, but every situation is different. I knew what kind of relationship we had and I knew the type of girl she is, so I made that calculated risk. It doesnít work with every girl though! Take note.

    With that said, hope youíre all doing better in some capacity and I hope you all find love with either someone new or rekindle that magic with your old flame.
    Congrats brother Nice work

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    Glad to read things worked out for you!

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    Terrific story! I believe that the key actions you took to go NC and do your work on your own are important. Anything short of that wouldn't have built your ex's trust no matter how or when you approached her.

    Best of luck and love to the both of you.

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