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Thread: Gay long distance relationship is getting tiring.... Your advise please!!!

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    Originally Posted by Nikolaos
    No, he doesn't and he is honest to me about that. Do you think then the financial status of my partner is a reason of me breaking up with him? I understand is not ideal but I don't want to be alone and I love him... What would you do if you were in my position?
    Yes it is if
    1) the person has a poor relationship with money (is a gambler, etc.)

    2) Cannot participate in the relationship fully. (he can never visit you, etc.) if you lived in the same town and you had expensive tastes (steak and lobster every day) and the other person could not afford that, then you would be a snob for dumping them - you just do inexpensive things when its their turn to choose where to go on a date. But if its long distance and the other person has no possibility of visiting, whether they cannot afford to, or they are resticted due to VISA, etc, what's the point of the relationship?

    If you want a relationship with someone who can freely visit you because they have freedom of being able to do so, then this relationship is not the one for you.

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    What choices do you have? You can't squeeze blood out of a stone because you hate being alone and won't do anything about it.
    Originally Posted by Nikolaos
    I understand is not ideal but I don't want to be alone and I love him.

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    Originally Posted by melancholy123
    Can you move to Dublin?
    I could move to Dublin but
    1) I'm not sure if this is going to work because of his financial situation (he is sharing a room atm - how he can afford a house sahring with his partner?)
    2) I don't like Dublin so much compared to London

    What do you think? Should I discuss all these things with him and probably suggest having a break to see how we both feel about each other and how we getting on with our own lives?

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    What choices do you have? You can't squeeze blood out of a stone because you hate being alone and won't do anything about it.
    Yes - this is true. I think it is king of pointless to keep being in this situation since there are many obstacles and also I;m not sure if he is the one I'd like to sacrifice many things in order to make things happen (i.e. move to Ireland, marry him etc.)

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