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Thread: My boyfriend has a gun and He says I need to accept him if I want to be with him

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    Screaming in all caps will not help you as much as getting yourself and your son away from danger.
    Originally Posted by angy864
    I LOVE THIS GUY! BUT I DON'T TRUST HIM FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE IN THE PAST TO ME!

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    Stop thinking you could fix him....he's a $%^& show...now give your head a good shake, and proceed to block/delete him.

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    When you are a single adult and you want to date abusers because you enjoy the drama and a good beating, that's your business. When you are a mother and have a child, you CANNOT engage in this kind of nonsense.

    Cold bucket of water here is this - what you describe is a pretty classic case where parental rights get stripped for having poor judgment and willfully and knowingly exposing your child to abuse and danger. IF for any reason your son were to be hurt, injured, or killed by some abusive psycho even by accident as in kid just happened to be in the way of a flying chair, YOU will be personally held liable and go to jail for a long long time. Wake up and grow up. If this is your judgment and your broken heart, then you shouldn't even think about dating until your son is grown up and out of the house.

    I don't even have the words to describe the psychological and emotional trauma you are inflicting on your son with this bs. Get your head screwed on straight and get your life and responsibilities in order.

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    Protect your child and get a restraining order. This way he will have to surrender the firearms. This is not an NRA debate it's abusing your child by placing him in the line of fire "because you love" some creep.
    Originally Posted by angy864
    He now insists is only for "protection"

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    Thank you! I already did and he is blocked! I don't use social media either. Thank you for your kind words.

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    Thank you for taking your time and giving me an advice. I do appreciate all the comments I am getting on this. I am a single mother of one and left my baby's dad for being an abuser as well. I was alone for 8 years and this person is been the one and only person I allowed to be around my kid. My son didn't even met his own father for similar circumstances and I took the whole responsibility.
    I know this may sound like I willingly put my kid into this crazy situation and I do accept I wasn't strong enough to not tolerate anything from the very beginning, like his lies... I do take full responsibility. Of course I NEVER wanted to put my kid though anything like that NEVER! It's easy to judge but at the same time nobody is in nobody else's shoes right? I am a good person, hard worker and being a mom and a dad supportive 100% to my child. Only God knows what I have been through. It's just so hard to accept that as soon as I gave a person a chance in my life this happens... thats why I am heartbroken! I'm human right?
    But of course I do take your advice and I appreciate it very much. THANK YOU! EVERYTHING You say is completely true.

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    If the people who love and care about you think he's bad news and you don't listen, why would you pay attention to strangers on the internet? Were you "hoping" we'd all say you're right about the gun but you should stay with him?

    It's time to put your child's safety and well-being above your desire to have a man in your life. This man will hurt you worse than he already has, and it's likely he will physically harm your child as well. Don't be "afraid to be alone". Leave him for good and don't ever allow him to contact you again.

    If he's blocked, keep him blocked and don't answer any calls or messages from unknown numbers. Better yet, change your number. Yes, you can.

    When you start to "miss" him, remind yourself of all the damage you'd be doing to your child if you allow him back into your lives.

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    Originally Posted by angy864
    Thank you for taking your time and giving me an advice. I do appreciate all the comments I am getting on this. I am a single mother of one and left my baby's dad for being an abuser as well. I was alone for 8 years and this person is been the one and only person I allowed to be around my kid. My son didn't even met his own father for similar circumstances and I took the whole responsibility.
    I know this may sound like I willingly put my kid into this crazy situation and I do accept I wasn't strong enough to not tolerate anything from the very beginning, like his lies... I do take full responsibility. Of course I NEVER wanted to put my kid though anything like that NEVER! It's easy to judge but at the same time nobody is in nobody else's shoes right? I am a good person, hard worker and being a mom and a dad supportive 100% to my child. Only God knows what I have been through. It's just so hard to accept that as soon as I gave a person a chance in my life this happens... thats why I am heartbroken! I'm human right?
    But of course I do take your advice and I appreciate it very much. THANK YOU! EVERYTHING You say is completely true.
    As something seems to attract YOU to abusive men, I would suggest some individual or group therapy.

    This has nothing to do with being in someone else's shoes. The first time there was an incident, you should have been out of there. No excuse for this! This attitude gets your child removed from your care. He also will not forget or forgive you for exposing him to dangerous people. It is your responsibility to protect him. Put your child before yourself.

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    Originally Posted by hollyj
    as something seems to attract you to abusive men, i would suggest some individual or group therapy.

    This has nothing to do with being in someone else's shoes. The first time there was an incident, you should have been out of there. No excuse for this! This attitude gets your child removed from your care. He also will not forget or forgive you for exposing him to dangerous people. It is your responsibility to protect him. Put your child before yourself.
    yes. Thank you for your comment.

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    Originally Posted by Cherylyn
    If you're uncomfortable and look upon armed men with disdain, listen to your gut instincts and intuition by dissolving the relationship. No, you're not crazy.

    If he continues to harass you and show up on your doorstep unannounced, next time, call the police and have law enforcement ensure that he stays away from you. Ghost, block and delete him, too.

    He's dangerous, hurts you physically, scares your son as he witnesses his rages not to mention the guy's sickness with porn, steroids, pills and raging tempers! He's a tinder box ready to blow! And, with a gun, there's no telling how wrong this scenario could turn!

    You don't want to end up on '1st 48.' (Homicide)

    There is no love whatsoever. Don't get it twisted. No trust = NO love. You are crazy for loving him but you're not crazy for wanting him to stay away from you and your child. He's scary!
    Thank you for your advice. I appreciate it very much.

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