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    Originally Posted by Capttrae
    Her, well the 1st and 3rd time we were together she was going through a divorce, the 2nd time we were both seeing other people but was spending most of my off time together instead of with the other people. .
    So when you first got together she was going through a divorce.
    You dated and subsequently split up.

    Second time you dated was not actually dating. Just hook ups as you were both seeing others.

    I assume she married one of them while hooking up with you since the 3rd time was again another divorce.

    You are her safety net only. And unfortunately you want to be her hero over your kid.

    I can’t advise you what to do. You choose!

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    Up to you but to be honest on and off again relationships don't normally last...It's a sign that there are issues and it's not really working, but you're trying to force it. I've been in yo-yo relationships before, so just speaking from my own experience....

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    My biggest thing is last time we were together she acted a lot like my ex wife did when she was 17, very immature, very b#####, idk what to do.

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    Originally Posted by Capttrae
    My biggest thing is last time we were together she acted a lot like my ex wife did when she was 17, very immature, very b#####, idk what to do.
    Do you think she's "changed"?

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    Ask yourself if you're going to go see her because you feel it's healthy this time, things have changed for the better and it definitely will work. Or if you're going to go see her because you're being sentimental and are slightly lonely.

    If it's the second set of reasons, don't go. You will only walk into more drama and fighting.

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    People rarely change romantically. Unlike what you see in Hollywood movies, you can't go back.

    Find a new woman.

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    Originally Posted by Capttrae
    Absolutely none, I’m still the same ol redneck, she’s still the same ol ditzy blonde that’s had my heart for the past 8 years. I just sit on the boat and picture the life I think we could have together, and think of the words we both said in our last fight and how things could’ve gone differently. How I wasn’t ready to quit yet, and I keep thinking maybe we should try again. Or maybe I’m just stupid idk
    If you're both (both being the key word) thinking of trying this on again then you shouldn't do it without the help of a good couples counselor because doing the same mistakes over and over again and expecting different results is just going to leave you sad once again and will do nothing to get you over your addiction to her.

    iF you can't see yourself doing couples therapy then Maybe you'd do yourself a loving gesture and just cancel the lunch and tell her it's best you don't meet because you're trying to move on. You're never going to get through this addiction to her if you don't do the cold turkey withdrawl and acceptance that you are better off without her drama which has always raised its ugly head after the initial new relationship "chemistry" fades... which always will and always does in every relationship when there is no real "love" there but rather just lust and infatuation.

    Do this the smart way this time based on logic generated in the head that rests on your shoulders only.

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