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Thread: Should i ask my swimming instructior out

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    Thank you guys for the advice and i have decided not to do it.
    Thanks again, i am a troll!!!!!
    Last edited by Rajwinder; 01-17-2020 at 03:06 AM.

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    Originally Posted by Rajwinder
    Thanks again, i am a troll!!!!!
    Obviously not a good one.

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    Originally Posted by Keyman
    Obviously not a good one.
    Yes sir you are very right about that

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    No, date other boys in your school.
    Originally Posted by Rajwinder
    I am in desperate need of advice that should i ask my swimming instructor out or not

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    Ask him out if you have to, but be aware you open yourself up to rejection.

    I usually recommend women not do it - why bother, why risk rejection when the guy will usually do it anyway? As an instructor, I'm sure he's confident and meets plenty of women.

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    Originally Posted by j.man
    Are you paying him? It puts someone in an awkward situation if their livelihood is at least in part contingent on providing you services for an income, and then having to assert his professionalism and hisown reputation in a way that doesn't shoot your ego down or make you so uncomfortable you won't come back. As TWT initially suggested, there's obviously no harm in asking once all your classes with him are over. But I know that back when I was training, my gut always sank whenever a current client hit on me or asked me out, even if I found them attractive (didn't take former clients on principle regardless). As a general life policy, I never solicited women who are in a disadvantaged position to say no. And I always appreciated the same courtesy coming my way.
    100% this!!!!!

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    Originally Posted by Keyman
    Obviously not a good one.
    100% this.

    The story was very ordinary. If you are going to troll, pick an outrageous scenario so we could at least be entertained.

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