Need advice with co-worker! Please help

Hi all, really appreciate your advice.

I work in an office environment, its busy and social. I recently started this position and work with an accounts girl who sits on the opposite side of the office to myself. We interact and work on the same account but not everyday do we get a chance to speak only in passing at lunch, making a coffee or when we are in a group of people.

We chat and always are making eye contact, the tension is building to an intense level where I think about her outside of work and I am sure she does me. I can tell she is 100% interested, at the work party before Christmas drinks were flowing, we had good banter and the sexual level was intense and she said I should ask her out for a drink, the next day was the holidays and I told her I like her.

I have had girlfriends and have dated girls in the work environment previously so I am not a shy person when it comes to being upfront and asking a girl out.

I was waiting for an opportunity to catch her alone at work, at the end of the week to ask her out but I couldn't get her alone, if I ask her at her desk people will hear and I don't want co-workers knowing just yet our intensions as I have only started this job in the last 2 months.

I am in a work whats-app group and have her number but I didn't want to go that route and message her without asking for her number unless that is a good idea? I have waited a while to see if my feelings would ease off or intensify to be sure and now I am really wanting to go out with her and feel we have a great connection.

I can wait and catch her alone at work or ask her at her desk to come out side for a chat. No doubt it will happened but I want to hear other peoples advice if I should just ask her in front of every one , wait until I see her alone or message her?

Why not date outside of work? Being the office skirt chaser is not a good place to position yourself as new employee. Do not ask her out in front of anyone. Read up on the sexual harassment policies in your workplace.

 

I have had girlfriends and have dated girls in the work environment previously so I am not a shy person when it comes to being upfront and asking a girl out.

 

should just ask her in front of every one

Thats what I am trying to do... I wont see her outside of work I want to get her in a position to ask her out. I can guarantee this would not feed into sexual harassment lol

Sexual harassment is pushing boundaries which aren't there.

Most new relationships don't work out. How will you feel if you have to see an ex every day at work?

That’s life. I wouldn’t think that far ahead, for now it’s exciting and you don’t feel connections like this everyday or very rarely.

I wouldn’t think that far ahead,

- Many people don't, and they suffer a lot of pain in dealing with relationships.

And if you don't think it's a good idea to ask her for her number in front of your coworkers - you are probably right.

Why not date outside of work? There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Trust me I’ve been around, having a connection with some and you both can’t keep your eyes off if each other makes it hard not to explore it. I am dating some one at the moment which I feel I have a better connection with the girl at my work place.

Wait, are "jjt" and "Jack Jensen" the same person???

So you just want to be the office Lothario and cheat on your gf...and brag about it under two accounts?

My advice remains the same regarding your gf: https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=561072&p=7151333&viewfull=1#post7151333

I am dating some one at the moment which I feel I have a better connection with the girl at my work place.

Wait, are "jjt" and "Jack Jensen" the same person???

What if you are wrong and you ask her out in front of others and she says no? You'd feel like an idiot.

Can you leave at the end of the day when she does and walk out with her and ask her out then?

I forgot my username and I have no idea why it’s coming up with 2 different names

I forgot my username and I have no idea why it’s coming up with 2 different names

Because you created a new account when you posted this thread.

But it's useful because your posting history tells more of the full story.

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