lola12 Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 I had a big argument with my boyfriend. Our relationship has been very rocky since he had to leave the island to do some work. I love him but I’m very angry and i seem to lash out recently everyime we talk on WhatsApp. Anyways we were arguing last Wednesday I was again feeling insecure ciz he left and I was telling him that I love him but I’m trying hard to stop and he was telling me please stop and that he’ll soon be back and I said do you think I should block you ? and he said do it do it just do it now and I did. And now I dint know if I should unblock him. 😞 I feel bad that I fought with him when he’s alone and he needs me most. I just feel so sad that he left suddenly and I wanted to protect myself from not getting hurt if he doesn’t come back that’s why I kept fighting him and told him I want to forget him Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 How long have you been dating? Stop texting for a while, but don't lose your temper and block people. It sounds like he simply left and you don't want a nebulous LDR. Why not just breakup? He'll be fine, otherwise he would not have left. Our relationship has been very rocky since he had to leave the island to do some work. I just feel so sad that he left suddenly and I wanted to protect myself from not getting hurt if he doesn’t come back that’s why I kept fighting him and told him I want to forget him Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 How old are you? I was going to ask that. Link to comment
jul-els Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 These are the terms of the relationship that he has to offer. If you're okay with it, then accept it and don't be unkind. If you're not okay with it, then you need to end the relationship. Link to comment
lola12 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 4 years but it’s complicated. He had to leave cause his passport expired and he never told me this Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 Is he going back to his home country? Did you meet as students? Are you from different cultures?4 years but it’s complicated. He had to leave cause his passport expired and he never told me this Link to comment
lola12 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 No not to his home country. He is from Iran but had left there since he was a child. Then he cane to Malta 4 years ago and met me. He left to Italy now to fix his passport there Link to comment
smackie9 Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 The reason why everyone is asking how old you are is the fact your behavior is immature. I think you should channel your energy elsewhere rather than crapping on him for things he has no control over. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 The reason why everyone is asking how old you are is the fact your behavior is immature. I think you should channel your energy elsewhere rather than crapping on him for things he has no control over. Exactly! The fact you wont reveal your age says a lot right there. I think you need to let this go, and move on. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 Are you from different cultures? Is he scheduled for an arranged marriage? Where do his family live? Where is he a citizen? How did you you meet? Work or school? He is from Iran but had left there since he was a child. Then he cane to Malta 4 years ago and met me. He left to Italy now to fix his passport there. Link to comment
lola12 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 I’m 30. Ow maybe I am immature! This relationship really changed me! Thanks for your replies Link to comment
lola12 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 I never asked if he’s scheduled for an arranged marriage it never crossed my mind : ( his family live in different places. We met coz I work in real estate and he had contacted me to find him property Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 Are you the same religion/culture?I never asked if he’s scheduled for an arranged marriage it never crossed my mind Link to comment
lola12 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 No but it never affected our relationship Link to comment
lola12 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 Until now ciz he had to leave and I don’t know what.’s happening exactly there, but he did say he will be back and I’m sure he will Link to comment
boltnrun Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 Constantly berating him for "leaving " you isn't exactly going to make him fired up to return. Are you TRYING to drive him away permanently? Link to comment
ace the sys Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 Well, I think you should unblock him. You say that it's been 4 years and according to your text I can not see a single reason to throw away a 4 year - relationship. If you feel insecure or anxious simply share your feelings with him and give it time. If you are about to end up with a decision as breaking up I think you should have a conversation last time before the last decision since it affects him as much as it affects you and you can never know if he will come up with a solution. Simply, unblock him and take some time. Leaving him for such reason is a little bit... Uhm... weird? I mean he will come back, right? Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 4 years but it’s complicated. He had to leave cause his passport expired and he never told me this How far in advance (of his departure) did he tell you that he was leaving? Link to comment
lola12 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 Yes I really think I should speak to him. It was my problem that I could’nt handle this situation of him leaving which was beyond his control Link to comment
lola12 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 He was ready to leave when I was ready and he left about 3 days after Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 He was ready to leave when I was ready and he left about 3 days after I don't understand. He left when you were ready...to do what? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 I’m 30. Ow maybe I am immature! This relationship really changed me! Thanks for your replies Oh goodness, I thought you were in high school. Link to comment
abitbroken Posted January 11, 2020 Share Posted January 11, 2020 Being that this man is from another country, you knew that he could not stay permanently in yours. He is only there as long as his passport allows unless he applies or residency and its approved. If he had to go to Italy to renew his passport, what was stopping you from asking if you could visit in a few weeks rather than throwing a tantrum. Maybe he thought it would only take him a day or two and that's why he didn't make a big deal. Also, your country could have the rule where someone can only stay so long, then they have to leave for awhile Link to comment
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