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    Originally Posted by Fx Penguin
    I only see him once a week in the evenings, he can't see me any other time because his mum has him on a tracking app and she would freak out if she knew he was at mine,
    Are you sure it's his mum who would be freaking out?

    What sought of 28 year old's mother has a tracking app on him?

    Sounds dodgy.

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    The point is there is no future with someone like this. Trust your family.
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    The thing is I'm online with him most nights and he'll facetime me almost every night before we go to sleep and Ive seen his room,

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    He was abused as a child and his mum is his adopted mum so I think that he believes he owes her a lot and he's been through a lot of loss, had 2 siblings die so I think that's why his mum is so protective

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    Nonetheless, do you see a future with someone who has a folie a deux style shared dysfunction with his mother? Keep in mind a normal man would never acquiesce to being tethered and kept hostage by any of this. It's not only about this foster mother, it's about his actions as well. This is not 'protective', it's abusive.
    Originally Posted by Fx Penguin
    He was abused as a child and his mum is his adopted mum so I think that he believes he owes her a lot and he's been through a lot of loss, had 2 siblings die so I think that's why his mum is so protective

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    I don't GPS my kids lol. They are adults. I presume I raised them well enough for them to know where they should and shouldn't go.

    Does his mother plan to do this forever? How is he going to marry you in secret? Will your children be a secret too if you have any?

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    Yeah I do understand, thanks for the advice guys

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    Let's say he breaks free from mom. What you'll have is a man with a trunk full of issues. That along with mother issues it very likely makes having a healthy relationship with a woman challenging for him.

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    It sounds like this woman is his lover.
    Originally Posted by Fx Penguin
    Yeah I do understand, thanks for the advice guys

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    No matter how you slice it, the guy is not capable of an honest adult relationship. So what's in this for you, but misery?

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