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Thread: Ex moved on really fast and I still can't

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    At the start I was walking twice a day for a couple months, then when I got to uni it died down and I tried to implement it every morning but I just didnít have the time.
    Originally Posted by RayRay63
    They all say the same thing because the advice is based on biology and psychology that has been researched and developed for many years. Not surprising really.

    For how long have you persevered with daily exercise?

    1 month?

    2 months?

    More?

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    Originally Posted by ashl99
    At the start I was walking twice a day for a couple months, then when I got to uni it died down and I tried to implement it every morning but I just didnít have the time.
    I suggest giving it another go - push yourself harder over a shorter course - you should get endorphin release when you are perspiring at the 20 minute mark, if not before.

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    Since you are at uni, you can now pursue regular medical and psychological care. If you don't bother with your mental health why should anyone else? You need to take care of yourself and stop blaming everyone for your depression. Why should anyone care about you or deal with your depression when you don't even care about you or deal with it. Help is all around you but you simply refuse to pursue it. Ok. You seem quite combative and stubborn. Not sure how that helps your situation.
    Originally Posted by ashl99
    I wasn't clingy and didn't show him my depression, he was aware of it though. I have been to councillors and the psychologist but they were just a quick fix for me

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    Therapy isn't a feel-good 'fix,' it's a long range project, and when you least believe that it's 'working,' that's usually when the real work is getting done. But it only 'works' if YOU work it. The best therapist in the world can't live our lives FOR us.

    I don't have any friends or close family.
    This is probably the issue where I'd start. Short range it will give you a goal to focus on--and away from living in your head while stalking the ex's new life.

    You get to decide whether you'll surprise yourself and build a fabulous future for yourself, or whether you'll keep drilling yourself into a deeper hole to climb out of by living in your head.

    Head high. It's a decision.

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    I appreciate the tough love but I canít help but feel like now itís my fault for the break up. Iíve been trying to get help for years now.

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    Originally Posted by ashl99
    I appreciate the tough love but I canít help but feel like now itís my fault for the break up. Iíve been trying to get help for years now.

    The breakup was a while back now, please stop analyzing who's fault it was. It didn't work out. That is all you need to know.

    Regardless of the "why?", you have to work through the consequences.

    For you, now, that means taking steps to help yourself. And regular exercise and some therapy are unlikely to have an adverse effect.

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