stdpb Posted December 17, 2019 Share Posted December 17, 2019 I've been meeting and speaking with this woman and we get along very well in person, we have gone on several dates and she's been showing signs of interests. However, we live in different cities and whenever we're apart, I feel she would grow a bit distant, taking more time to reply to texts. We still do phone calls when the timing works for us. Any tips on how I can pursue her in such a situation? Planning to visit her again in a couple of months hopefully. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted December 17, 2019 Share Posted December 17, 2019 Is there anyway to visit sooner? What about Skyping with each other? Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted December 17, 2019 Share Posted December 17, 2019 Just do what you're doing without hounding her. No one enjoys being pestered to death. Also keep in mind that LDR (long distance relationships) rarely endure. Sooner or later one or both of you will burnout due to fatigue, hassle, inconvenience and expense to travel back 'n forth. Time, gas, tickets (if by train or bus) and the like will wear anyone down. Absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder. To the contrary, too much absence causes two people to drift apart. Just be aware so you won't be disappointed later. Link to comment
MirrorKnight Posted December 17, 2019 Share Posted December 17, 2019 I wouldn't do it in the first place. It is one thing if you build a solid relationship and then it becomes long distance for whatever reason. But I would not entertain the idea of a LDR in the initial courtship phase. Date somebody in your own city. Don't pursue an unavailable fantasy. Link to comment
RayRay63 Posted December 17, 2019 Share Posted December 17, 2019 The only way an LDR can actually work is for one of the participants to re-locate. If there is no firm plan to unite geographically, then the LDR will eventually splutter out. People need physical intimacy, and sooner or later something local will provide it. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted December 17, 2019 Share Posted December 17, 2019 This is going to be impossible unless there are plans to move to the same area. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 17, 2019 Share Posted December 17, 2019 How far apart are you and how often can you see each other? Stop gauging things by text response times, she doesn't want to be text buddies. Also you are not exclusive so both of you should be dating local people for a better match.we have gone on several dates and she's been showing signs of interests. we live in different cities and whenever we're apart, I feel she would grow a bit distant, taking more time to reply to texts. to visit her again in a couple of months hopefully. Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted December 17, 2019 Share Posted December 17, 2019 Tips? See her every week........which you probably can't do because it's long distance. Most long distance things don't work out. Link to comment
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