Picking up my kid

Quick question. Me and my ex (not the mother of my kid) is coming to pick up my kid to spend a night at her place to see her daughter. The kids are friends.

Things ended up in bad terms, I chased her for a month, and she blocked ne everywhere.

She has been texting my kid to plan with him when to pick him up from my place, and she hasn't texted or told me anything about it. Because of this reason, when she comes to pick him up, should I even bother to come downstairs with the kid, or just send the kid alone downstairs? Considering that she hasn't even bother contacting me to arrange things directly with me, I feel like not coming downstairs to see her

woooaaa hold on ....

so your ex isn;t in a friendship with the kids mother or a relationship with you and she is taking your kid for the night and arranging it behind your kids mum and your backs ...no ..nope , not happening ...

unless I have read that all wrong .

I agree with, Pippy...why are you allowing this? This is you child. Unless you are on good terms with the ex and she is on good terms with your child's mother, she shouldn't be near your child.

No, don't see her.

Honestly? I find the whole situation concerning, as you're both choosing to involve your children in a breakup. Not sure what her motivation is, but from your last thread, and the question at the heart of this one, I can't help but think that yours is to see if reconciliation can come through a friendship between your mutual children.

Not cool. You're not friends, or co-parents, but two people who dated for 8 months. Not sure how old the kids are here, but you are both putting your kids in an unfortunate situation: awkwardly civil at best, explosive at worst. Can you not hear the tick, tick, tick of the little bomb?

Excuse me???? How old is your child ? If child is a minor tell her to get stuffed and if she doesn’t stop inferring with a minor you can have her arrested for kidnapping.

Now, she wants nothing to do with me, she is scared of me because I chased her for 3 to 4 weeks calling and texting her and showed up at her place to talk unannounced.

^^^ so that is from your last thread ....we wont get into the whole you pushed her , that was covered ......but she isn't that scared of you or concerned seen as she is messaging YOUR child to pick him up from YOUR house ..

For crying out loud tell her to get lost ....this is your time with your child and she doesn't get to arrange overnight stays . DO NOT let your child be used as a porn in this rubbish .

^^^ so that is from your last thread ....we wont get into the whole you pushed her , that was covered ......but she isn't that scared of you or concerned seen as she is messaging YOUR child to pick him up from YOUR house ..

 

For crying out loud tell her to get lost ....this is your time with your child and she doesn't get to arrange overnight stays . DO NOT let your child be used as a porn in this rubbish .

Exactly. And she sneakily went behind your back? She’s a nut job.

Flares’ Ahoy flaming red kook to go behind your back to your kid.

Exactly. And she sneakily went behind your back? She’s a nut job.

It is unreal .....imagine messaging the child of the man you are calling the police about , to take that child from his house to spend the bl00dy night .....by god vic ..she makes us look sane love

Also Ric , if I was his mum and found out she had taken him , I would literally go mad !

You say "when" she picks up your child. So you're totally OK with this?

I mean, I get that you really want this woman back despite all the things you did wrong. But this is not the way to go about it.

I presume you've already told your child it's OK for him to go. So now you either have to go back on it or you have to allow him to go.

So since it seems you are totally fine with this (because you have motives), just stand at the top of the stairs. Do NOT approach her in any way or she might perceive it as you attempting something. Then let her know this will not happen again.

Do not let her take your child. What on earth are you thinking?

Do not let her take your child. What on earth are you thinking?

I think he already told his child it was OK. Because he wrote "when" she picks him up.

HE did all the wrong things during the time after the breakup and now he thinks this is an opportunity. This is his back door way to try to get her talking to him again, through the child. So yeah, I think he's totally fine with it.

But yeah, it's all kinds of wrong.

She could be filling his head with all sorts of nonsense ....

I don't care if you have to let him down and say he can't go .....YOU are his father , your rules go and if this is just to keep her sweet then you need to give your head a bang buddy ....

1- My son is coming to visit me 2 weeks in Xmas, and my ex said she wants him to spend 2 nights at her place to play with her daughter. Most likely she will come to pick him up, she will contact him directly I'm guessing.

How should I act, hi and bye and merry Xmas and that's it? No invitations for coffee?

ok I read more of your last thread , so you knew she was going to do this ......you were full of self reflection and determined to turn your life around ....listen mate women don't get to throw the domestic card around then get your child in this precious Christmas time you have him ...no woman/man is worth this ...

I would be screen shotting everything she says to him as well .

All you can seem to see is an opportunity to make thinks ok with her ...... you are not a doormat , this is your child ....

To add to this. The mother of my kid who left me in 2012 January. Broke up a 7 year relationship with the guy she left me for exactly at same time I got dumped. She knows my ex. They spoke briefly last summer. I called the mother of my kid a month ago abiut the kid and told her I broke up with my ex and she told me she did too.

So I invited her to come spend Xmas with me and my kid. She lives 4000 km away. She said yes. We will be spending Xmas and new years together with our kid.

If your child’s mother gets wind you could be a cooked goose. If that was my child and I found out I would be taking this to court.

You are not saying anything about the age of your child if this is a minor child and this is just some fruit cake ex could be considered child endangerment. Make sure you have your head screwed on.

So are you seeing if you can get back together with both women?

To add to this. The mother of my kid who left me in 2012 January. Broke up a 7 year relationship with the guy she left me for exactly at same time I got dumped. She knows my ex. They spoke briefly last summer. I called the mother of my kid a month ago abiut the kid and told her I broke up with my ex and she told me she did too.

 

So I invited her to come spend Xmas with me and my kid. She lives 4000 km away. She said yes. We will be spending Xmas and new years together with our kid.

There you go Ric .... this might not be you two getting back , but it is mam and dad and little boy all together .... he will love that ...come on buddy this is going to be a fabulous time for you all .......tell the ex to get lost .

Your son will LOVE having his mum and dad to himself at the same time over Christmas .....like vic ( seraphim ) said ..this will not look good in her eyes and could ruin what I think will be a fab time for you all .

You are not saying anything about the age of your child if this is a minor child and this is just some fruit cake ex could be considered child endangerment. Make sure you have your head screwed on.

He is 9 years old. The mother of my kid knows my ex. He traveled to Spain last summer in holiday where she she lives last to drop my kid. Me, my ex and her daughter if had shower at the mother of my kids place before we went to the airport back home. Mmthe mother of my kid is OK that my kid stays over a couple of nights at my ex. My kid and her daughter are friends.

You are not saying anything about the age of your child if this is a minor child and this is just some fruit cake ex could be considered child endangerment. Make sure you have your head screwed on.

Yeah I also agree vic , he should be screen shotting every word she says to the boy ...just incase she chooses to cause more trouble , police etc etc

There you go Ric .... this might not be you two getting back , but it is mam and dad and little boy all together .... he will love that ...come on buddy this is going to be a fabulous time for you all .......tell the ex to get lost .

 

Your son will LOVE having his mum and dad to himself at the same time over Christmas .....like vic ( seraphim ) said ..this will not look good in her eyes and could ruin what I think will be a fab time for you all .

Yeah we split up when my kid was 1,5 years old. He never saw me and his mom together.

He is 9 years old. The mother of my kid knows my ex. He traveled to Spain last summer in holiday where she she lives last to drop my kid. Me, my ex and her daughter if had shower at the mother of my kids place before we went to the airport back home. Mmthe mother of my kid is OK that my kid stays over a couple of nights at my ex. My kid and her daughter are friends.

ok well fair enough , thankyou for clearing that up ...BUT ...I still strongly disagree with you lettig her take him ...you and her are over , it is over ..she claimed to be scared of you ..you have to cut her off .

He is 9 years old. The mother of my kid knows my ex. He traveled to Spain last summer in holiday where she she lives last to drop my kid. Me, my ex and her daughter if had shower at the mother of my kids place before we went to the airport back home. Mmthe mother of my kid is OK that my kid stays over a couple of nights at my ex. My kid and her daughter are friends.

She should NOT be making private plans with a nine year old. Someone who does that doesn’t have all their screws in. A nine-year-old doesn’t make decisions about where they go overnight.