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Thread: Held on too long

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    Platinum Member bluecastle's Avatar
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    Is this the same man? [Register to see the link]

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    It’s painful to look at that & magnify that I, and this situation basically never changed.

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    It seems I’m easily addicted to the euphoria of believing how awesome things could be. It definitely is an escape.
    Chelsea I love this... I have another Chelsea in my life that has the same addiction, only hers is chasing unavailable and toxic women in real life.

    At the end of the day literally everyone does this at some point... chases a fantasy and "potential" ... the learning comes when you are able to recognize that this is where you are and ground yourself in reality again.

    Because the reality is that this guy has made no effort to follow through, has stood you up during important moments, and hasn't been present and accounted for when it matters.

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    Originally Posted by Chelsea54
    I have feelings for this man, some based on who he really is and probably the majority based on what I imagine about him.
    But worth looking at, I think, in that you can see how fast we build a foundation with someone—a foundation you articulated 1.5 years ago. I highlight those words not to be a buzzkill, but to point out how little this really has to do with him, who he is, and where he comes up short, than how your own imagination works to build the rollercoaster and keep it operating.

    Why's that relevant now? Well, it just goes to show that he really doesn't need to offer you very much—or anything, really—in order for you to stay invested, to keep writing a story in your mind since, together, you really haven't co-authored a story over two years. That's kind of the danger to this loop. You're pretty conditioned—self-conditioned, by and large—to be satisfied with very, very little from him. In other words, he doesn't really need to magically become anyone in response your last text, since who he is, and has been the whole time, has been enough.

    Can you choose, now, to decide that's not enough? That you're ready for something more, something real?

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