kfred92 Posted December 12, 2019 Share Posted December 12, 2019 I was in a relationship with a woman who has been with a man most of her adult life. She comes from a different country where abuse is common in the culture. I would like to talk with someone familiar with abuse who can help me understand better. I’m stuck and don’t know how to carry on. I care for her deeply still and always will but You can’t help someone whose not ready to see that it’s not love. I’ve done research and I know many times they go back... which she has since done. This has affected me greatly and I’m haunted daily. Thanks Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted December 12, 2019 Share Posted December 12, 2019 Was? Does this mean that she doesn't want to be with you or the relationship has ended? If it's over, it's over. It's not your problem whether she continues to be abused or how often she wants to go back to her abusive husband. It's none of your business. You're not her social worker. Don't get muddled in situations that have nothing to do with you. Do you mind explaining more how you feel this has affected you or why you feel the need to intervene? Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted December 12, 2019 Share Posted December 12, 2019 There isn't a person here who could explain this and ease your mind or help you understand because it is far far to complex and there are so many different stories from abused men and women a world over . If it is a case of ...how could she prefer an abusive man to you then the answer is only hers to give and I doubt even she could explain it Why tax yourself with this stuff , chalk it down to a relationship that didn't work out and just move on . Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 12, 2019 Share Posted December 12, 2019 Is she still in that country? How does she "keep going back"? How long have you dated? When did you break up? Have you met in person? Is she divorced? There is a plethora of information online about abusive relationships. There are also a ton of agencies that deal with this. You need to stop communicating with her since she went back to her husband. You are putting her at great risk. She comes from a different country where abuse is common in the culture. You can’t help someone whose not ready to see that it’s not love. I’ve done research and I know many times they go back... which she has since done. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted December 12, 2019 Share Posted December 12, 2019 That's good. It doesn't sound like things went well with her.I don’t communicate with her any longer. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 12, 2019 Share Posted December 12, 2019 What people are saying is you can’t control other people’s lives or responses just your own . Link to comment
Honeycomb8 Posted December 12, 2019 Share Posted December 12, 2019 Cheaters that go outside of a marriage always sprout the same BS. Getting involved with a married woman is wrong so stay away. Link to comment
kamurj Posted December 12, 2019 Share Posted December 12, 2019 OP it does not look like you are interested to hear what others have to say. Thread closed. Link to comment
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