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    overthinking it?

    Saw a cute girl in the library last night so i decided to go talk to her. I had to run to class and she was also working on something so i got straight to the point and (very nervously) told her i thought she was cute and asked if shed want to hang out sometime. She said sure and asked for MY number, and said shed text me.

    That confused me because ive never had that happen before, where i ask a girl out and she asks for my number. Ive seen on youtube videos and other forums that it might mean they arent interested and just didnt want to be rude. A few of my friends said its no big deal and that she wouldve just said no if she wasnt interested, but id still like to get some other opinions, specifically maybe from some other women!

    Thanks!

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    All you can do is see if she contacts you. It does sound like a "don't call me I'll call you" type of reaction. Could mean she wants to think about it, because cold approaches, particularly when "you're cute" is mentioned, come off as pick up lines and she's used to that. You may run into her again but because you used this pickup technique it may be awkward. For all you know she has a bf. So if she doesn't contact you oh well move forward. Next time try to build some rapport first and never mention their looks, it could come off as 'i just want to get laid, here's my number'.
    Originally Posted by E98
    told her i thought she was cute and asked if shed want to hang out sometime. She said sure and asked for MY number, and said shed text me.

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    Don't sweat it. You are bound to run into her again, especially now that you know where & when she likes to study. I went to one of the largest universities in the world & could always find somebody I was looking for. If you bump into her again smile & say remember me?

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    Don't worry - let her contact you. It's last night so give it a few days, at least until after the weekend.

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    Put it out of your mind until if and when she texts you.

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    Just go with the flow and don't keep score regarding who initiates contact first or second. Yes, you're over thinking it.

    Enjoy dating, getting to know each other and share good times!

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    Originally Posted by Cherylyn
    Just go with the flow and don't keep score regarding who initiates contact first or second. Yes, you're over thinking it.

    Enjoy dating, getting to know each other and share good times!
    thank you!

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    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    Don't worry - let her contact you. It's last night so give it a few days, at least until after the weekend.
    yeah i figured with this being the last week of classes that she might have a lot going on. if she was going to text me itd be this weekend at the earliest.

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    To echo what others have said. Don't overthink it. Don't get invested (yet).

    Give yourself a pat on the back for having the courage to take your shot, given the short window of opportunity. The fact that she asked for your number, instead of giving you hers, could be just personal habit, or it could be a nice way of turning you down. Either way, you have done what you can.

    As I said in another similar thread, in scenarios like this, if you have taken the shot, then there is no regret. It's a numbers game to an extent, roll enough times and you'll roll a natural 20 eventually... But no point getting fixated on individual results.

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    Good on you for having the guts to approach a cute girl! Hopefully she will contact you! However as a woman, I know that usually when girls say: "Give me your number instead" and they don't give their number, it's because they're not interested and they don't want you to have their number lol

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