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Thread: Broke no contact - unsure how to proceed

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    Platinum Member Wiseman2's Avatar
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    Keep in mind, he's on dating sites. Sure, he may respond to your chasing and perhaps try a fwb situation, but once someone tells you they see no future, they generally mean it. You are the one who should be on dating sites moving on not finding excuses and manipulative videos to chase him down with.

    Also keep in mind he made zero effort to contact you and no it wasn't because you told him not to, it's because he didn't want to. No matter what kind of games, he is not going to change how he feels including "don't call me" games, then "your cute dog video" games etc. A few text exchanges is not going to change something as substantial as "sees no future".

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    Going backwards in life is not the answer. If he broke up with you because he doesn't see a future, what exactly has changed in the last 5 weeks to make a future with you look more desirable? Sure he is a nice person & doesn't enjoy being the source of your pain. He was fine to speak with you. He probably misses your companionship because you two shared stuff while you were dating & presumably you dated because you liked each other. Being friendly & likeable does not translate to 'til death us do part & happily ever after. Whatever it is, it just wasn't working for him.

    If you need to put it all out there, go ahead & have one more conversation with him about reconciliation but understand he's probably going to say no thank you. You may need that final nail in the coffin to fully move forward & accept that this is really over for good.

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    I also tend to think that when we leave someone we feel a certain amount of guilt and concern for how they will handle it.

    By you reaching out and being upbeat you are inadvertently giving him the message you are handling the breakup pretty well.

    It gives him the peace of mind he was hoping for and can continue to move on assuming you are doing ok.
    I don't think that was your intention. . . .

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