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    My husband is selfish in bed

    My sex life is a joke. My marriage otherwise is decent, but the sex is awful. I’m 40 and my husband is 48. He is not impotent. I have to practically beg for “favors” and even then he COMPLAINS during the act “my mouth is tired! Are you almost there?”
    I take care of myself and have good hygiene. But we hardly have sex anymore and when we do — three minutes, tops. I’m serious. No kissing. No foreplay unless I beg. It’s ridiculous. I’ve tried to talk to him about it and he says he’ll change... but he hasn’t. I’ve bought toys and sexy lingerie....nothing. I know things could be worse than not having awesome sex but it hurts my feelings. Any advice?
    And things were a little hotter early in our relationship, but even then just “ok” compared to my other relationships. Maybe he isn’t attracted to me

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    Man, you got a lot going on.

    Issues with mom, disobedient child, trouble with sex life.

    You can attempt to solve every problem you have at the same time, but I think it would be beneficial as well as more productive to work on one issue at a time.

    I think the issues with your daughter take precedence.

    Then your sex life.

    Then your mom

    You know the saying, take care of home first.

    But seriously one issue at a time girl, Im overwhelmed just reading everything going on.

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    Originally Posted by figureitout23
    Man, you got a lot going on.

    Issues with mom, disobedient child, trouble with sex life.

    You can attempt to solve every problem you have at the same time, but I think it would be beneficial as well as more productive to work on one issue at a time.

    I think the issues with your daughter take precedence.

    Then your sex life.

    Then your mom

    You know the saying, take care of home first.

    But seriously one issue at a time girl, Im overwhelmed just reading everything going on.
    Sorry. I guess there are a few things bugging me right now. Just trying to get some unbiased opinions. I don’t have a lot of people I can talk to. (My mom was one of them but.... yeah)

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    Do you have a therapist?

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    Do you have a therapist?
    No I know I need one.

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    I would slow down on the threads though because they only allow you one on the main page at a time or they might start closing them.

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    I agree about taking things one at a time.

    You need to make sure your little girl is okay first. The other issues (although important) should be on the back burner for now until you find out what's upsetting your daughter so much.

    That little girl is not happy and you need to find the reasons why and how to have a more consistent household so she won't be going off the rails like she is.

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    Originally Posted by SherrySher
    I agree about taking things one at a time.

    You need to make sure your little girl is okay first. The other issues (although important) should be on the back burner for now until you find out what's upsetting your daughter so much.

    That little girl is not happy and you need to find the reasons why and how to have a more consistent household so she won't be going off the rails like she is.
    That of course is the most important thing to me, but I thought I could toss a couple other things out there too... not necessarily because I think they should be dealt with immediately but because they’re bothering me. I just wanted some unbiased input.

    Didn’t realize you could post “too much” either. Bummer.

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    Originally Posted by bipolarqueen
    That of course is the most important thing to me, but I thought I could toss a couple other things out there too... not necessarily because I think they should be dealt with immediately but because they’re bothering me. I just wanted some unbiased input.

    Didn’t realize you could post “too much” either. Bummer.
    They want to give everyone a chance to be heard .

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    They want to give everyone a chance to be heard .
    Understandable. I’ll take a break and go make dinner!

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