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Thread: Caught Boyfriend with Sex Toy: Now what?

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    Originally Posted by Leah33
    I think it's a bigger problem if after 7 years together you can't bring it up to him out in the open.
    I had a similar thought. Don't know much about your relationship...but maybe it's an opportunity. No one can really know for sure. What's your gut say?

    Sexuality is a massive spectrum. We all slide along it in our own ways. Can't label a person for one preference or another. You'll never know what he was up to if you don't ask.

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    I'm no Dr. Ruth but this sounds like a good problem to have!

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    Originally Posted by ThatwasThen
    *sitting her wondering how a man deep throating an inanimate object would be a turn on (for him) unless he was bi or, like Linda Lovelace, has a clitoris half way down his throat*

    OP: If it turned you on then why let him know you know? Keep it at the voyeur level is my suggestion. Either that or actually let him know you are awake and ask him if you can help.
    He might have a fantasy of wondering what itís like to be a submissive female.
    My point being that people have fantasies of all sorts of things but in reality would never realise them.

    I donít think his actions alone suggest he is gay or bi.
    He might even be imagining what itís like when he deep throats a girl. Perhaps heís never had a girl to allow him do that and wondering why?

    At this point the op got off on it.
    Itís up to her whether she wants to discuss with him or not.
    But she needs to be ready for his response no matter what that might be.

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    Well. I decided I wouldn't bring it up and try another night to see what the hell was going on.
    I don't use my sex toys often. But I've has this glow in the dark glass dildo in a drawer somewhere for god knows how long.
    Tonight I'm not so sure I'm not crazy because I was pretending to be asleep (I even snored a bit for dramatic effect lol) AND TELL ME WHY I SAW SOMETHING GLOWING IN THE DARK.
    BUT THIS TIME IT WASN'T BY HIS FACE.
    I don't even know what to ing do. What if he denies it? Can I really just lay here at night (regardless of getting off or not) and NOT say anything? It's just too ing insane NOT to mention. I'm at a complete loss.

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    Originally Posted by Overthemoon7
    Well. I decided I wouldn't bring it up and try another night to see what the hell was going on.
    I don't use my sex toys often. But I've has this glow in the dark glass dildo in a drawer somewhere for god knows how long.
    Tonight I'm not so sure I'm not crazy because I was pretending to be asleep (I even snored a bit for dramatic effect lol) AND TELL ME WHY I SAW SOMETHING GLOWING IN THE DARK.
    BUT THIS TIME IT WASN'T BY HIS FACE.
    I don't even know what to ing do. What if he denies it? Can I really just lay here at night (regardless of getting off or not) and NOT say anything? It's just too ing insane NOT to mention. I'm at a complete loss.
    You're awfully giddy for someone who caught their boyfriend deep-throating a d*ldo.

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    👹🐗💩🐷🌭👇🦄🤖👾Your troll posts are so amusing you should consider writing for some sort of porn site. You don't have a question or want advice you are just writing out your fantasies here.Especially like the screaming capitols and frequent vulgarities. 🚽💩

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    Originally Posted by Overthemoon7
    glow in the dark glass dildo. I SAW SOMETHING GLOWING IN THE DARK.

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    This is not a troll post.
    I've gotten the answers I wanted. My choices were to bring it up or not. Lol.
    You ever experience something so incredibly outlandish that you can't help but laugh or else you might cry? That's where I'm at. I don't expect you to understand the dynamic of our relationship considering minimal details were given.
    I feel like I'm IN a bad porn story, not the author. I literally would have never even been able to imagine something like this happening, let alone experience it.
    And the cursing? Well, it's a sex themed forum. I didn't know it would be considered distasteful.
    I'm at the point where I can see him basically calling me crazy if I did bring it up. I wouldn't even know how or where to begin.

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    I wouldn't call it giddy...manic maybe.

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    He did it in bed with you. That means he either consciously or subconsciously wanted you to see it so you would bring it up... possibly because he doesn't have the courage to bring it up out of the blue himself.

    Bring it up with him.... so what if he freaks out? My guess is once the initial embarrassment is gone... if you show him you are interested and turned on by it, and as long as you didn't humiliate him, he will be intrigued and want to experiment... I know I would!

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    Honestly, this does sound like a troll post.

    Unless you're hoping for your boyfriend to be gay or are actually a man yourself, I can't see why him deep throating a dildo would do anything for you.
    Secondly, if you've been together 7 years, you'd be talking to each other about things. The fact that you're not is a huge red flag that you are not close and he does not feel comfortable talking to you.

    The whole situation sounds very weird.

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