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Thread: Need advice on how to reach out to my Ex-Wife on Christmas

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    Or...he could spend the holidays with his WIFE! The one he refuses to acknowledge exists while he continues to pursue his ex.
    I feel badly for the current wife... and predict that if she has any self-esteem at all, it will only be a matter of time before she moves on too.

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    I just find it very odd that she still stalks my Instagram! That to me is even more creepy than sending a brief note on Christmas! ⛄️

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    Originally Posted by askdan
    I just find it very odd that she still stalks my Instagram! That to me is even more creepy than sending a brief note on Christmas! ⛄️

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    Originally Posted by askdan
    I just find it very odd that she still stalks my Instagram! That to me is even more creepy than sending a brief note on Christmas! ⛄️
    Not even a little bit odd... nearly everyone I know does this periodically... and hardly stalking if you have left it open to the public.

    What's odd is your obsession with your ex and the way you seek her approval.

    If you looked up insanity in the dictionary, you would see a picture of yourself writing her a letter on Christmas.

    Why do you have such a desperate need for her approval?

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    Dan...Does your wife know what's going on here?

    Also, I have to wonder if you're seeking advice, or posting for your own amusement?

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    Originally Posted by askdan
    I just find it very odd that she still stalks my Instagram! That to me is even more creepy than sending a brief note on Christmas! ⛄️
    You find this odd, but you don't find a married man continually trying to find ways to reconnect with his ex wife odd. Or a man who pretends his current wife doesn't exist odd.

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    You find this odd, but you don't find a married man continually trying to find ways to reconnect with his ex wife odd. Or a man who pretends his current wife doesn't exist odd.
    Iím staring to think there isnít one.

    He wrote a year ago he met his ex wife for coffee and found closure.

    Originally Posted by askdan
    Thanks endy, after +75 days of No Contact followed by a coffee meeting, I am in a much better place and finally got the closure I was looking for.

    Thank you kindly for all of your support.
    I canít quote the other post causes it got closed.

    In this post he states he hasnít spoke to her in 2 years.

    In another post he mentions he makes twice her salary as a Dr., lives in Hollywood, and hob-knobs with celebrities.

    In another post he states he has PTSD because she pulled a knife on him.

    And it seems in nearly every post since 2004 heís been trying to reconcile with one ex after another.

    Thereís a whole lot going on here.

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    Life is not a Hallmark or Disney movie. It's time to be realistic instead of sentimental. Stop reaching out to her. Don't bother yourself nor her.

    Whenever there is divorce and no kids involved, it's final which means you go your separate ways with permanent zero contact. Be mature, grow up and accept this harsh reality check. That's life.

    Stop living in the past. Move forward without thinking of your ex-wife's life. Be more concerned about YOUR life.

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    Thanks everyone for your thoughtful advice! I Based on the recommendations above, I have decided to act with a balanced approach.

    Instead of sending an email to catch up and ask her for her goals and projects for the new year, I have decided instead to simply text her ďMerry Christmas (name) ! ⛄️

    Thatís it! Short and simple. I will send it on Christmas Day. Who would be cruel and mean-spirited to ignore a positive text like this on Christmas?

    Now, another interesting fact. After years of absence, curiously enough, she popped back on my Skype contact list! This after years of absence and Silent Treatment - lol. What a strange coincidence, a week before Christmas.

    I will keep you updated of the results, and in the event of another disappointment, I shall implement permanent No Contact on January 1st 2020 and formally close that chapter of my life once and for all.

    For all of the negative comments out there, I shall remind you that I am in the Healing After Divorce section, which is what I am doing. I am not in the Getting Back Together section. I have never experienced so much cyber bullying like that in my entire life! lol

    Happy Holidays everyone! ⛄️

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    Originally Posted by askdan
    Who would be cruel and mean-spirited to ignore a positive text like this on Christmas?
    Mm well you're about to find out.....

    What if she just replies "Thanks. You Too"....?

    How does your current wife feel about this?

    Carus*

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