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    I want to propose but I have doubts

    Hi all,

    I was on here years and years ago and have been thinking how much it helped last time. Iíve been in a 4 year long, long distance relationship with a lovely woman. She is kind, gentle, incredibly patient, loving, generous, and sincere. The doubt throughout the years has been that I donít find her as attractive as I do so many others. It makes me feel terrible thinking about it but I canít deny it. I bought a ring but I am having doubts because of this. I donít think itís fair for her but I also wonder if the feelings will change once weíre together. She is amazing and sometimes o feel like Iím being dumb, that I have an unhealthy mindset and itís not reality, and Iíve gotten myself in knots in my head. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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    Take the ring back . Youíre not ready .

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    Originally Posted by larryburst
    Hi all,

    I was on here years and years ago and have been thinking how much it helped last time. Iíve been in a 4 year long, long distance relationship with a lovely woman. She is kind, gentle, incredibly patient, loving, generous, and sincere. The doubt throughout the years has been that I donít find her as attractive as I do so many others. It makes me feel terrible thinking about it but I canít deny it. I bought a ring but I am having doubts because of this. I donít think itís fair for her but I also wonder if the feelings will change once weíre together. She is amazing and sometimes o feel like Iím being dumb, that I have an unhealthy mindset and itís not reality, and Iíve gotten myself in knots in my head. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
    How long were you in the relationship before it became long distance?

    How frequently do you see each other in person?

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    I would say that if you havent warmed up to her looks after 4 years , then you never will .

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    We were in a relationship for about 6 months, and see each other for a week every 3 months...

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    ...We were in a relationship for about 6 months, and see each other for a week every 3 months...

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    Originally Posted by larryburst
    ...We were in a relationship for about 6 months, and see each other for a week every 3 months...
    If you propose, who is going to move?

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    She would to me from overseas

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    Originally Posted by larryburst
    She would to me from overseas
    Any reason why she can't move now? Or will she only move if there's a promise of marriage?

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    I think you would be best served living together first before getting married.

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