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    impotence issues

    I almost went all the way with this cute Vietnamese girl...did pretty much everything up until the end...and lost my erection at some point and couldn't get it hard again.
    Very frustrating...this would have been the first time in 10 years. The same thing happened my first time too (as in the girl I lost my virginity too). idk what the problem is :-/ But needless to say I'm very frustrated.
    She's super sweet I feel like a tool now.

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    Have you talked to a doctor?

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    If this occurrence has only happened twice in your lifetime, I doubt it's anything to be wary of but I agree about seeing your doctor about it and describing the issue there.

    You're probably very down about it. This is natural. It's natural because it's failed expectations (you expected a different outcome). I'd check that and make a mental note. I'd describe your emotions to your doctor also as these can affect performance (built up anxiety, negative memories, negative associations).

    As for your date, don't worry. If she wants to get to know you for you, this shouldn't affect her enthusiasm or desire to get to know you. Most women understand it takes more than abracadabra to get things up and running. I'm not sure if this has crossed your mind - she may not have been your cup of tea either in some form or another or the circumstances might have been too abrupt and insincere. Don't take this the wrong way - mind and heart and body should be in sync for great sex.

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    Kinda personal questions but:

    - How old are you?
    - Do you watch porn regularly?
    - Was your ‘first time’ not a nice experience and does this girl remind you of that time in any way?
    - Are you fresh out of a relationship and still grieving over an ex?

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    I wouldn't quite say it's necessary yet...I can masturbate perfectly fine---and with the first girl it worked the next time we tried...it could just be that I haven't done it in so long maybe little Timmy is regaining traction...idk.

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    Originally Posted by Carus
    Kinda personal questions but:

    - How old are you?
    - Do you watch porn regularly?
    - Was your ‘first time’ not a nice experience and does this girl remind you of that time in any way?
    - Are you fresh out of a relationship and still grieving over an ex?

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    My first time was fine...I don't really have any emotions attached to that really...though that girl pursued me very heavily.
    I'm not grieving over an ex per se...but I am still battling with emotions to a family of friends I lost some time ago...a pastoral family...but in particular it heavily involved one of the girls of that family...we were just friends but I had a hard time with the friend breakup.
    The current girl doesn't remind me of anyone from my past...like at all.
    Yes I watch porn pretty regularly.

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    Is it this girl?
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    I thought she was religious and wouldn't even kiss you after 4 dates, and she was asking for a status or label.

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    Is it this girl?
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    I thought she was religious and wouldn't even kiss you after 4 dates, and she was asking for a status or label.
    yep...and then she agreed to watch a movie at my place and a few minute into the movie jumped on top of me....so yeah.

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    Originally Posted by drivenfuture
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    My first time was fine...I don't really have any emotions attached to that really...though that girl pursued me very heavily.
    I'm not grieving over an ex per se...but I am still battling with emotions to a family of friends I lost some time ago...a pastoral family...but in particular it heavily involved one of the girls of that family...we were just friends but I had a hard time with the friend breakup.
    The current girl doesn't remind me of anyone from my past...like at all.
    Yes I watch porn pretty regularly.
    Thanks for answering that....

    Over time, porn can certainly affect one's sex drive, especially when it comes to intimacy with a partner....

    I would say just keep an eye on it....If it starts to happen regularly then you may have to dig a bit deeper.....

    Also perhaps this girl doesn't turn you on too much in that regard.....?

    Perhaps this has also got something to do with it:
    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    I thought she was religious and wouldn't even kiss you after 4 dates, and she was asking for a status or label.
    Carus*

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    Originally Posted by drivenfuture
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    Yes I watch porn pretty regularly.
    It is most likely the porn.

    Modern media and porn has given many young men unrealistic female beauty standards. It is hard to get excited by the average woman if you have access to high quality videos and images of impossibly beautiful women at will on the internet.

    It also depends on what kind of porn you watch. The more extreme you go, the less you will be turned on by normal vanilla sex with real women.

    Masturbating to porn is also programming your body to associate sexual excitement with something that is nothing like real sex. Namely, when you are having sex, you are not watching somebody else have sex in third person, it is a totally different experience.

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