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    Confront is a strong word. How long have you been together, and is this a concern because you don't believe that the videos were consensual? If the folder was hidden, did you snoop where you shouldn't have gone, or did you mistakenly happen on it?

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    I think people are being a bit harsh on the OP here.

    She saw a video of her boyfriend having sex with other women. Not immediately brushing this off as no big deal is hardly a sign of crippling neuroses and insecurity

    Chances are sheíll get over it in time and things will return to normal.

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    Originally Posted by Horridhenry
    I think people are being a bit harsh on the OP here.

    She saw a video of her boyfriend having sex with other women. Not immediately brushing this off as no big deal is hardly a sign of crippling neuroses and insecurity

    Chances are sheíll get over it in time and things will return to normal.
    But how would one come across hidden folders without some sort of effort to find them?
    I have access to my bf's ipad, but I am careful not to snoop around in areas that might be otherwise considered private. Hidden folders for example.

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    "It had videos of him having sex with other women before we had gotten together."

    "BEFORE" is the operative word here.

    Think: the past is another country and they do things differently there.

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    But how would one come across hidden folders without some sort of effort to find them?
    I have access to my bf's ipad, but I am careful not to snoop around in areas that might be otherwise considered private. Hidden folders for example.
    Yeah she did wrong and hopefully she understands that. She snooped.

    But she found videos. Of her boyfriend having sex with other women. That he hasnít gotten rid of.

    Thereís nothing to suggest he has done wrong or that this should affect their relationship but come on, give her a break. Sheíll come to terms with it and move on, but itís a difficult thing to see.

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