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    Originally Posted by Leah33
    You initially said she did agree to the details of the date:


    Unless she tells you otherwise, consider the date a go.
    Everything is planned out except now she hasnt opened my text regarding where I am picking her up (her address) for 36 hours now. I walked by her while she was at her locker at school today and she turned her back to me while she was talking to her friends. Things arent looking too good right about now but well see...

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    I don't know OP, this doesn't sound very promising.

    Girls who are interested are generally less aloof than this.

    Then again, you mentioned a locker so I am assuming you are both still in high school. Folks at that age are still learning the ropes of dating and she might be one of those girls who's read somewhere that she should try to act more detached to make you more interested. It sounds convoluted, I realize, but teens rarely have a solid approach to dating.

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    She's not interested OP. Stop contacting her and move on.

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    Originally Posted by lostandhurt
    Wow!
    Is this what dating has come to? Her score?

    Here is a novel idea and I know it is way out there but how about you actually call her on the phone. Yes that's right I mean have a voice conversation with her. Ask her when she is free and then set up a date for that day/time. If she doesn't answer then don't leave a message. Call her one more time when you have pretty good idea she is free to talk and if she still doesn't answer drop the whole thing because she has shown you clearly that she is not interested.

    Who knows the phone call may be so out of the ordinary that she might just think you are special and got out with you.

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    I agree with this. Maybe not with this girl, but future interests. This girl does not seem interested to me, and you're not really taking the hint. It took her that long to respond because she was busy trying to solidify plans with her friends or a potential date with some other guy, and when there seemed to be no other priorities, she agreed to go out with you. She has a high potential of bailing on you if something better comes along. You can continue on with your plan and see if a date might shift her interest in your direction and you hit it off, which would be great, but circumstances as they are do not seem very promising to me.

    I would also like to echo the other posters - CALL or ask her out in person and then call for further details if required. Have a couple plans in mind, days and time, when you ask; a movie, goofy golf, ice cream, drinks and an app...whatever, and see where it goes. I think you'll get a lot more traction if you put out that extra effort rather than passively sandwiching some snapchats into the fray of social media.

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    You need to stop clocking response time. Get off your phone. Enjoy the date and work on your anxiety and stop gauging things by how glued people are to their phones.

    Would you even want to date anyone who is so attached/addicted to their phone that the second you message they shoot back in a nanosecond? That indicates they have no life, are very boring and would be clingy and annoying if you're not texting every minute of every day. Don't date anyone like that..
    Originally Posted by hide
    Everything is planned out except now she hasnt opened my text regarding where I am picking her up (her address) for 36 hours now. I walked by her while she was at her locker at school today and she turned her back to me while she was talking to her friends. Things arent looking too good right about now but well see...

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    Originally Posted by MissCanuck
    I don't know OP, this doesn't sound very promising.

    Girls who are interested are generally less aloof than this.

    Then again, you mentioned a locker so I am assuming you are both still in high school. Folks at that age are still learning the ropes of dating and she might be one of those girls who's read somewhere that she should try to act more detached to make you more interested. It sounds convoluted, I realize, but teens rarely have a solid approach to dating.
    I agree. I am in high school, and I think it could go both ways. Iíll have to wait to see I guess

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    Originally Posted by purplepaisley
    I agree with this. Maybe not with this girl, but future interests. This girl does not seem interested to me, and you're not really taking the hint. It took her that long to respond because she was busy trying to solidify plans with her friends or a potential date with some other guy, and when there seemed to be no other priorities, she agreed to go out with you. She has a high potential of bailing on you if something better comes along. You can continue on with your plan and see if a date might shift her interest in your direction and you hit it off, which would be great, but circumstances as they are do not seem very promising to me.

    I would also like to echo the other posters - CALL or ask her out in person and then call for further details if required. Have a couple plans in mind, days and time, when you ask; a movie, goofy golf, ice cream, drinks and an app...whatever, and see where it goes. I think you'll get a lot more traction if you put out that extra effort rather than passively sandwiching some snapchats into the fray of social media.
    Initially I did call her to ask her out, but her and I both said that we had a busy week with school and work, so she agreed that well figure something out this weekend or next week, and to text her later. She initially was responding to me , but then ignored me after we figured out a date. She apologized and told me that she couldnt respond for a day because she was studying all day and was busy (which was a lie because she was active on the app, and its highly unlikely that a popular girl in my generation doesnt use their phone all day). It seems to me she doesnt even have the courage to reject me.

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    It can be annoying to be put on hold for hours. It is often a reliable enough indicator that she isn't into you.
    In the past I have talked with both girls that were interested in me, and that weren't. The difference is like day and night. On the one hand they would respond in a matter of 2-3 minutes, in the other it would take up to one day.

    Think of it like this: if she is interested, she will actively seek you, especially if you reciprocate the sentiment. You did well in answering after some minutes because instant replies make it look like one keeps refreshing the page just to keep up the conversation, and that's a turn off. But if I were you, I would leave it at that, because she doesn't look like she's interested enough to reply to you. Don't waste anymore time. This does not mean you should hate her or something, but just respecting her wishes to not go on a date, if she behaves like she doesn't feel like it.

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    Originally Posted by WandererBoy
    It can be annoying to be put on hold for hours. It is often a reliable enough indicator that she isn't into you.
    In the past I have talked with both girls that were interested in me, and that weren't. The difference is like day and night. On the one hand they would respond in a matter of 2-3 minutes, in the other it would take up to one day.

    Think of it like this: if she is interested, she will actively seek you, especially if you reciprocate the sentiment. You did well in answering after some minutes because instant replies make it look like one keeps refreshing the page just to keep up the conversation, and that's a turn off. But if I were you, I would leave it at that, because she doesn't look like she's interested enough to reply to you. Don't waste anymore time. This does not mean you should hate her or something, but just respecting her wishes to not go on a date, if she behaves like she doesn't feel like it.
    Yea shes definitely not interested. She may come back around next semester because I have all 4 periods of the day in the same class, but as of right now ill just forget about her. Should I text her anything or just forget about it

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    Just forget her. Don't bother her.

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