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Thread: Am I overreacting ?

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    No it's a sign he wasn't that into you, or interested in pursuing a relaitonship. He's just one of those guys that is just as happy being alone. This has nothing to do with you, or anything...just isn't the guy for you. Remember next time, if a guy doesn't fulfill your expectations, end it and find someone who does. Complaining to them about it does noting and as you can see he showed that.

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    Originally Posted by Tishmoore691
    I felt unwanted so I told him I cared about him but it didnÂ’t seem like he felt the same way...
    Now is the time to be a little hard on yourself and realistic about the situation. You didn't break up with him. There was nothing to 'break up'. Be kind to yourself and let go. As the others have already mentioned, don't keep putting in energy and effort into someone or a friendship/relationship when it's not being reciprocated in the same way. You're spending a lot of energy, time and life on someone who isn't giving back to you.

    I'd ask myself what's going on with me that I need or want someone like this in my life. I may be feeling so low and down that I'm not thinking straight or I've continued on a destructive path for so long that I've gotten used to the way my mind thinks and the bad habits I've developed picking the wrong company. Don't be afraid of snapping out of bad habits and changing the way you think. This person is not ok for you. All your gut instincts are telling you how unnatural and wrong this is from your behaviour, your emotions, his behaviour and your nervousness and your disagreements.

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    I'm surprised you tolerated this for so long. He clearly was not into you, or is incredibly manipulative. Your friends gave bad advice.

    Move on.

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    This is not a relationship....this is you desperately chasing a guy and trying to force him into a relationship.

    If you have to constantly keep reminding a guy that you exist, then it's time to let it go.

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    There comes a time when we just have to concede that the other person is no longer interested. He doesn't want the type of relationship you do, OP.

    He might have been much more enthusiastic at one time, but he's lost interest along the way. Fighting about it is pointless when one party (him, in this case) just doesn't care. How you finally called it off isn't entirely relevant, so don't be too hard on yourself about that. He was already gone and apparently hoping you would take the hint.

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    I have an ex who told me "Look, if I wanted to see you I'd come see you". It's as simple as that.

    No sense chasing your tail anymore.

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    You can speculate about his preferred communication style, and whether it's right or wrong, or whether you were right or wrong to end it by text for as long as you like. It's not really relevant.

    The important thing is that you wanted someone with whom you could have some kind of contact every day, and he just wasn't up for that. You don't need to know why. All you need to know is that there are PLENTY of guys who'd want the same, and now you're free to go and find one!

    Good luck!

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    When you free yourself of this, you can date local interested men. He is most likely seeing someone locally and therefore can't be bothered with communicating with you in between. Think about it. Chance at local sex or texting/arguing?
    Originally Posted by Tishmoore691
    I’ll see him once every two weeks. He lives almost an hour away. Yes it does seem like FWB

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