Hi,
I'm 30 now. There's this guy I've known since high school who had a crush on me back then and I shut him down. After I graduated high school, I got into a relationship with someone else, spent five years with the guy, got engaged, and had 2 kids. 2 months after I broke up with my ex fiance (it was announced on social media), this guy from high school hits me up. I'm 23 at the time. I blew him off again because I just had too much going on being a single mom, and trying to work, and I wasn't over my ex yet. He persistently hit me up about once every 3 or 4 months after that for 6 whole years!! And over time I slowly became more responsive to him and even hung out a few times, but I always made it clear to him nothing was going to happen. So now present time, my kids are older now 7 and 8 and I'm finally ready to start dating so I actually made the effort to start hitting him up more often because I'm realizing that he's actually grown on me. He's a very attractive guy, he just always had this bad reputation as a player, but he has a kid too now a few years younger than my youngest and seems to have really matured and settled down. We've hung out together with our kids and seeing how good of a dad he is and how easy the relationship flowed with my kids was like the moment I REALLY got into him. We've since had some amazing conversations and dates. He respects that I don't want to get INTIMATE just yet although he reminds me he's waited all these years... The only negative thing is that we have polar opposite political views. Though I'm not really that in to politics I just have my little opinions and that's it. He's VERY involved in them though and likes to debate and I don't.
Anyways, fast forward to today, he suddenly stopped responding to me all together. Like "left on read" type of ignoring. It's been about a month now. There was no argument, nothing profound being said. We had had a normal conversation that day about work. The next morning I got the typical good morning text. And then when I asked if we were still meeting up later nothing... Have I been ghosted? Did he get scared? He's been very vocal about how much he likes me and how waiting for me was so worth it. He's always making me reassure him "Is this forreal? You really like me? You finally want me?" He admits to being really insecure because the mother of his child cheated on him.
I also kind of feel like maybe I didn't live up to the fantasy idea of who he thought I was. Not to sound conceited, but I get hit on all the time and everywhere I go people tell me how beautiful I am, but honestly I'm a total awkward, introverted, nerd. I work in IT and have zero social life. But at the same time those are the things he used to gush about he loved about me so I'm really at a loss here. I don't know if I should try and reach out again. I don't want to look desperate. I've already done the "double text." I know he's not dead, in jail or institutionalized because he still posts on his social media page, but it's all vague stuff about sports and shared funny videos/memes. Which really makes me feel hurt because I know he knows I can see that he's ignoring me and apparently he doesn't care. My friends say get a new man "that'll make him jealous" but if this is really about him being scared or insecure that I'll change my mind and blow him off or shut him down again doing something like that may just ruin everything if there is a chance.
Help!
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