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Thread: PLEASE help! Can't stop lashing out at boyfriend

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    Originally Posted by smackie9
    It's easy to do at the beginning of a relaitonship because you are infatuated with each other. That's called the honeymoon stage. But when that's over, those strong feelings subside. You are not getting enough "stimulation" from face timing and texting to feel like a real relationship. It's a fact in order to be properly bonded to your BF you need physical contact. If you don't bond properly, you don't connect, you don't feel secure. This is why you are lashing out. LDRs are not for everyone. Obviously it makes you very insecure and frustrated. You are best to pull the band-aid off fast and end it. You will feel much relief. These feelings and behavior will miraculously disappear.
    I agree and would want to know if she is patient/even tempered in other areas of her life.

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    Sorry to hear this. You are wasting your time on this. You are frustrated, understandably. You've met twice in Two Years. Get away from the phone/computer and start meeting people in real life. Get on some dating apps and start messaging and meeting local men. Also get out more. Volunteer, join some clubs, groups, sport, etc. If you have mood or anger issues, see a doctor/therapist.
    Originally Posted by Deermouse
    So basically I'm in a long distance relationship of 2 years, we've met in person twice

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    Very shrewd, very insightful, Pippy.

    "....when people have tied themselves to an internet relationship over two years and only met twice"

    "Or is he all of these things that you call him ?"

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    Emotional abuse suggests a lot about the person expressing it. Clearly you have issues and clearly you are unhappy. I'd get therapy, it's obviously needed.

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    You don't really have a relationship beyond the one in your head. Two years is a long time to delude yourself. Maybe you're getting tired of doing that?

    I second the professional help. You will thank yourself.

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    You've been in a LDR with him and only met in person TWICE. It's time to break up.

    The only way to prevent yourself from lashing out at him is to breakup and sever all contact permanently.

    You're both sick of each other so go your separate ways.

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    This is not a relationship, it is a waste of time. Are you scared of having something real, and so you chose people you rarely see?

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    Let him go and seek help for yourself as there is clearly something wrong with you. Being abusive to someone becasue you cannot handle the decision you made to be in a LDR is absurd. You are responsible for your own choices.End it and leave him alone.

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    As I read your post, I had a few questions like the PPs. Why have you met in person only twice? Is it possible that you are pushing him away because you are afraid to get close to someone? Sometimes people who have experience with emotional abuse will do things that help them to keep their distance with other people in relationships. Would you be willing to seek counseling so that you can have an objective help in working through this. I hope you find what you need during this time so you can overcome this. Hugs.

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