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Thread: Married Man with 2 kids in love with Wife and also Deeply love friend

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    Originally Posted by JT1982
    I am not married for money... just that family business stated the share can only disburse after I reach a certain age.
    So What has the money got to do with your marriage or affair?
    You will come into money at a certain age regardless of your marital status right?
    Why are you promising this money to another woman and not your kids??
    My guess is that you are using it like a carrot to a donkey?

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    Is this an arranged marriage? Why did you marry someone for money but love someone else the whole time?
    Originally Posted by JT1982
    I am married man (37 years old) with 2 kids and a lovely wife who love wife to her best. Both of us assist each other to achieve financial freedom.
    In 2015, I found out that the girl (woman) I love very deeply with 3 kids was divorced and been struggling to gather herself up.

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    I'd quit viewing this as a problem that's fallen upon me, but rather one that I'm creating for myself.

    Then I'd stop creating it and stop contacting the 'friend'.

    Problem solved.

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    Originally Posted by simple cure
    I think it's normal to get feelings for other people even in marriage, especially if you loved someone before it, and have good memories.
    The difference between the tragedy of an affair, and the endurance of a good marriage, is the choices people make.
    How would you feel if you knew your wife did the same, or felt the same way?
    You can choose not to be the person who made a tragedy for your wife and kids, you can choose to keep from having an affair.
    It's difficult to do when something else seems so appealing and the right thing seems so stale. But, I believe every marriage has those moments when both have to choose.
    The single other woman deserved to find the right person for her too. Someone she isn't causing a marriage to fall apart.
    Or making her kids become part of some crazy dynamic of custody and divorce.
    You're still in the decision phase.
    It would be wise to stop putting yourself in the company of that dynamic and pull yourself together.
    It's not worth a few minutes of getting excited.
    And then, in the future, you go through the same boring time in another marriage. Not wise.
    That was beautifully said...

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    Stop cheating on your wife. It's that simple.

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