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Thread: Would you take this as a compliment from a slightly (inexperienced) person?

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    Finding a 22 y/o guy who is going to like fellatio and sex, that's a no-brainer.🙂 Does he like you? Hard to tell. Does he want the sex and bjs to continue, that's a yes.
    Originally Posted by dustycloud
    when I was giving him oral. He kept telling me how sexy I am (no brainer, compliment there) and that having sex with me is like having sex with a porn star and I've been the best sex he's ever had.

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    He has no clue what a lady would like to hear....he's thinking with his immature, masturbates to a lot of porn, male brain. BUT yes it's a compliment ( in his mind).
    True story: I used to work at a night club, next door was the peeler bar. One night I was cashing out in the lobby some guy asked me if I was one of the strippers. Now by no means did I dress like those girls, I dressed nice, I was well groomed and took a lot of pride in my appearance. I just lost it on him, felt insulted. He was shocked and said it was a compliment....egad! not!

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    Originally Posted by smackie9
    He has no clue what a lady would like to hear....he's thinking with his immature, masturbates to a lot of porn, male brain. BUT yes it's a compliment ( in his mind).
    True story: I used to work at a night club, next door was the peeler bar. One night I was cashing out in the lobby some guy asked me if I was one of the strippers. Now by no means did I dress like those girls, I dressed nice, I was well groomed and took a lot of pride in my appearance. I just lost it on him, felt insulted. He was shocked and said it was a compliment....egad! not!
    What an idiot!

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    How about... "You remind me of June Cleaver!"

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    Although it was a dreadful thing to say I think this dopey guy meant it as a compliment. The words he used were crass & vulgar, basically calling you easy but I think he was trying to say that it was a mind-blowing fantasy come true. Talk to him about how he expresses himself.

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    OP The fact that you are coming here to ask if it's a compliment tells me that you have mixed feelings about it... if you have mixed feelings about it, something about what he said doesn't sit well with you... and at the end of the day if it doesn't sit well with you, you are not required to take it as a compliment and can in fact decide that whatever it was that he said bothered you for whatever reason it bothered you.

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    This reminds me of a Sex and the City episode. Carrie's friend hooks her up with an acquaintance visiting from France (possibly relocating -meaning not sure if Carrie thought this would be a one time thing)- handsome dashing charismatic guy. They spend all day together taking in the sights then have sex at his hotel. The next morning he has breakfast delivered to her and he is not there. He leaves a note and hundreds of dollars as if she were a prostitute. Your situation reminds me of that -you were under the impression that he is looking to get to know you - the whole you -but a comment like that suggests his focus is on your sexual technique and it's "the best" because you got him off and had moves like a porn star - so you're out of his league and I am not certain he wants to pursue a relationship with you beyond a sexual arrangement. Of course some couples who are committed and in love watch porn together and experiment but that's once they have an established relationship of love and respect.

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    Originally Posted by dustycloud
    I'm recently dating a guy who is 2 years younger, and we've just slept together. I've had a fair bit of experience and I've slept around, which he knows. He claimed he has only slept with 3 people as he's been in long term relationships when I was giving him oral, he told me that his previous girlfriend almost never gave it. He kept telling me how sexy I am (no brainer, compliment there) and that having sex with me is like having sex with a porn star and I've been the best sex he's ever had. He also sort of kept insisting that I'm out of his league.
    I'd leave the comments in the bedroom and out of other areas of your life including any ideas you have about yourself or your self-worth. This was a good time and perhaps nothing more. If you're not able to handle having casual sex or the occasional offhand comment, engaging in casual sex might not be for you and you shouldn't beat yourself up about it or try to appear nonchalant about something that you tend to overthink after the fact. To me, it appears harmless and sort of the thing couples say in the heat of the moment and nothing more.

    Let this go. Start treating your partners with respect and creating more healthy boundaries in your partnerships or relationships. If you're not ready for this, that is ok too. Another time, another place. Always focus on your own wellbeing. Life is too short to live badly.
    Last edited by Rose Mosse; 10-28-2019 at 02:28 PM.

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    He said you're the best he's had, so it was obviously intended as a compliment. He meant well.

    How you take the comparison, however, is up to you.

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    I also believe he meant it as a compliment but used a poor choice of words. What a dope!

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