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    She is nowhere near abusive. Do not throw around such caustic words lightly.

    Dating somebody you share a house with is a terrible idea. When you break up you will have to see her with other guys.

    She likes the attention you give her & she enjoys flirting with you. She is playing games but she's not abusive. She may simply be immature & may not know how to deal with being in a relationship. If you don't want to play, then don't flirt with her. It really is your choice.

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    What was your first clue she just wasn't that into you? When she first rejected an offer to go on a date with you. And then you tried to wear her down like jackhammering a rock, trying to make a dent. And now you're surprised she's not putting in the effort and doesn't value the relationship?

    Learn from your mistakes. If a girl doesn't jump at the chance of going on a date with you the first time you ask, STOP ASKING. Because you'll have the same results as you're getting now. This is the time of life you'll be meeting more single women your age than at any other time in your life. Why are you clinging on to something that's not working?

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    Seriously?

    What is it about people wanting to be abused?

    It doesn’t magically make your situation ‘better’ it doesn’t excuse you sticking around...

    You’re no victim, just a willing participant.

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    You're upset and hurt. She's not what you thought she'd be and perhaps the shy and introverted ended up being confused and displaced. Please don't take this so hard. When we date, we get to find out what types of people we're dating. You've found she's mostly confused and displaced. You'll probably find a great number of individuals who are open to dating are confused and displaced. Just as there are good opportunities, there are also bad opportunities out there.

    Take this all with a grain of salt. Move forwards, let go of this person or remain friends in a lighthearted, cordial way if you're in the same social circles. It doesn't pay to burn bridges or carry a chip on your shoulder or become a bitter or resentful person. Pick your partners so that you enhance and complement each other.

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    Originally Posted by iriselul
    I said that she looks abusive because I am thinking she's a kind of narcissistic person. Not sure about that
    Not abusive or narcissistic... she is just seeking validation by leading you on and keeping hooks in.

    If you don't like the way she is treating you, you will need to do your part by closing the door and not communicating with her.

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