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    That one text might have been to give her his new number.

    How much couple time do you spend together?

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    Let sleeping dogs lie. You asked him the question and he has since cut it off with her. Don't confront yet again. Leave it alone.

    Hopefully he'll behave when your back is turned.

    I agree with others. Seek marriage counseling and build some serious trust issues.

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    Agree. Cheaters lie and when confronted they lie better. Unfortunately he does not seem open to marriage therapy or you. Many cheaters go through the motions of marriage therapy replete with crocodile tears as a good way to retool and hide their activities better.

    You could privately and confidentially consult an attorney to review your options. This would serve several purposes . You would know where you stand in the event of divorce. You would have someone already familiar with your situation in the event of divorce. It would provide you with leverage if you give him the choice of continuing his affairs and divorcing or ending it and working on your marriage.
    Originally Posted by HeartGoesOn
    I think he found a better way to cover his tracks...

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    Instead of fretting over this incident, focus on improving your marriage. Counseling may work, but you can't just let things "go back to normal" normal is what got you both in this situation. When there is smoke there is not always fire. Some people just form a friendship with the opposite sex as an escape from the boredom, trouble or anxieties that are happening in their life or marriage, and totally nothing to do sexually or romantically.
    It takes two to tango, so if you want things to work, you must broach the subject of what changes could be done to help you two be happy together. Communication is key, sweeping it under the rug is not.

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    Confront is a strong word. What would you say, and what are the results you would hope for?

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    I don't think you should confront him, he might not be very happy that you were sneaking around in his phone. Maybe you should continue observing his behaviour and try your best to communicate with him and remind him of the love that you guys had when you first got married?

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