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    Cooking dinner, cleaning up and hiding her son in his room doesn't sound like "date night". Sounds like you don't want her son around. It's not that she won't have it at home, it's that it's not different to the day to day drudgery except you want her kid to be locked up in his room. What are you thinking? Let him stay at grandma's, a friend, whatever and go out.
    Originally Posted by Potofgold
    date night at home (which consists of a candle lit dinner and a glass of wine in the dinning room for about an 1 hour) whilst her son is home.

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    Family is family. If her son is home, then you ALL sit together for dinner and talk about your day. If you want to have a romantic dinner with her, then take HER out, or do it when her son is not with you. If you want to have romantic dinners at home with her and not be bothered by anyone else in the family ... get a dog!

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    Quite a hole you dug here, bud.

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    ...I mean....you can't really have a romantic dinner time with kids at home. How do you not understand that OP is what's puzzling here.

    Either you do it when kiddo is out at grandparents, his dad's, sleepover at friend's house, etc., in other words not home for the night, or you take your wife out somewhere for a nice dinner. She is 100% correct that you can't ask her son to just sit in his room and exclude him from the dinner table, not to mention that there is literally nothing romantic about the whole idea.

    If you are stuck on this idea of romance that hard, you really shouldn't be with a woman with children.

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    Does no one here get that a date night at home is often better than going out??

    Iím with the op here that it is often a better option , Iím just not sure why he canít make it happen.

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    Originally Posted by Billie28
    Does no one here get that a date night at home is often better than going out??

    Iím with the op here that it is often a better option , Iím just not sure why he canít make it happen.
    Because he isn't allowed to put her son in a cage during their "romantic" evening...

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    What? 🤔 Crating your stepchild like a dog is not romantic?🐶🔗What about the wine and candles and dirty dishes?🍷💡
    Originally Posted by Camber 2019
    Because he isn't allowed to put her son in a cage during their "romantic" evening...

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    He's 13? I raised adolescent boys and they barely acknowledge you at this age.
    Most of the time they either had friends over or they were at their friends house.
    Surely you can have a one hour quiet dinner.

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    Surely you can have a one hour quiet dinner.
    Why on earth would you want to do that with your son at home? Either:
    1) Go out
    2) Do it when he is not home
    3) Eat as a family

    I think one of the reasons for the demise of today's "family" is not eating together (DEVICE FREE).

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    Originally Posted by Potofgold
    Hi,

    I live in a 3 bedroom apartment with my wife of 5 years and her 13 yr old son.

    Issue is my wife won’t have date night at home (which consists of a candle lit dinner and a glass of wine in the dinning room for about an 1 hour) whilst her son is home. Her brief reasoning is she is concerned about her son having to be in his room for the duration. At no point did ask or insist in away that we lock him away in his room. My gut feeling is it just does sit well with me.

    Appreciate thoughts and or similar experiences.
    Seems to me your wife and you are misunderstanding each other. Don't jump to any conclusions and revisit this at a better time. The reasoning seems haphazard or haphazardly understood. I'm sorry to say that. It's a bit nonsense and makes no sense. I'm sure you'll be able to work it out reasonably and there are very simple solutions. Patience resolving this is a good idea.

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