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Thread: I've Taken A Serious Gut Punch

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    Everything in moderation, from personal growth to shots. That's my motto.

    I realize money is tight, but you come across like a great candidate for therapy. Something to consider. People can think of it as the place we go when we're all messed up—a little shame chamber of sorts—but I think of it more like CrossFit for the mental-emotional core. The more intimate you get with that guilt/self-hatred cycle, the less sway it has over you, and, with that, the less sway it'll have in, well, intimacy with other humans. Once you can look it dead in the eye, you won't be prone to chase anything—be it a shot or a woman—who provides the illusion of taming it.

    One day at a time. The way you feel right now? It won't last. That's a fact, as all feelings are are things that come and go. So make some use of it. You'll thank yourself later—a much better reason to raise a shot glass, you know?

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    I've Taken A Serious Gut Punch

    I think the best advice has already been given to you by some posters. However I will add one point:

    Based on your post, it seems that you failed to adequately communicate your feelings to your girlfriend during this transition. Do you have a tendency to internalize your feelings instead of perhaps disclosing them? If something feels off, you should communicate that to your partner. Otherwise you’re bottling all of this resentment, and it just creates distance which increases over time.

    I am sorry to hear what you’re going through, but time is the healer of all wounds.

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    I wouldn't move for anyone unless they were my fiancee. I think it's very important to have your own life, identity and finances in check otherwise one becomes a deadweight.

    You'll get over this in time, just be kind to yourself.

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