Originally Posted by wegotdodgson
There have been a few responses with suggestions that I might cheat on my wife, following the slippery slope that I have started on. Or that this level of flirting counts as emotional cheating. I’m not going to try and define it, and I’m sure that I have crossed a line, but I know that the last week of sleepless nights and emotional turmoil over someone flirting with me, kind of precludes me from pursuing anything physical. The very thought makes me feel sick.
Conversely, and this is the thing that I can’t shake, because I had momentarily thought about cheating it has made me question my relationship with my wife, a relationship that I had thought was pretty solid.
I just don’t understand it. My wife has never once looked at anyone else, ever. I think she finds me attractive, but I just don’t feel it. She loves sex, I love sex, but it’s never been something that she initiates. It’s not just sex, any form of intimacy is always on my terms, kissing after work, in the morning – nothing. You all might be better people than me, but when you are the only one to make romantic effort in a relationship you are then also the only one that ever gets knocked back, that can only be a hit to your self esteem. Otherwise, I'm a focussed, driven person.