Follow up again for a second date?

Met this girl through a dating app last week on Thursday, after a few messages I set a dinner date for Saturday night. The date seemed like it went great to me (she gave compliments about me be funny and intelligent) , we didn't end with a kiss but when I dropped her off she asked about going out again.

I texted her the following evening about I had a fun time meeting her and a little inside joke. She texted me back the following morning (Monday) about how she had a great time too and wished me a good day.

So I asked for a second date yesterday to go bowling and what day she's free, but haven't heard from her.

Do I even follow up again for a second date before I write her off? If so should I wait a couple more days/ a week... and what would be a good follow up text?

Honestly it’s up to you.

You only met her once so I guess you have to ask yourself is the potential silence going to hurt?

People sometimes to try to soften the blow by giving throw away responses knowing they dont plan to go on another date, I’ve done it, I’m not particularly proud but if I sense a guy being overly eager, I feel rejection from the safety of distance is best.

Not saying that’s what’s happening here, you can give it some more time who knows maybe she’s busy, typically though with online dating, I tend to find silence to be the most common way people ‘politely’ say not interested.

Give the girl a chance! You just asked her yesterday, perhaps she's busy! Be patient. Writing her off so fast seems an over the top reaction. Give her a few days in case something happened and she wasnt able to reply. If at that point she doesnt seem interested, then yes, move on.

Wait a few days and ask her out again. Don't be so impatient! Don't write her off!

I wouldn't follow up again, but that's just me. She may be busy, and if she wants to see you again, she'll find a moment to reply.

Did you text or call? If just text, I'd follow up in a few days with a call, and a call where you get to hear her voice and have a conversation even if it's simply to set up the date.

Relax. She seems into it, so be confident.

I asked for a second date yesterday to go bowling and what day she's free, but haven't heard from her.

Good grief, give a person at least 24 hours to respond. Don't be so insecure that you end up rejecting yourself.

Also, text messages don't always go through. General life rule is reach out twice, then move on. So wait a day or so and ask again.

I know you want to move forward, as this sounds promising, but chill!

She may be busy

She may not have received the text

She may be playing the "I shouldn't reply straight away" game!

Frustrating, I know... but that's the courting dance!

It's been two days now. Did you hear from her? I think the polite thing to do (if you're both on the same wavelength) is to respond right away especially if the chemistry is right. I've never left a person waiting like that. I either explained the chemistry wasn't right or I went on a second date. It might just be personalities at play. Don't feel discouraged. Meet others if she doesn't respond. Don't bother with these types of games, I think.

Nope haven't heard back in 2 days, I think I'll reach out again in a couple days as it can't hurt. I won't ask her out again as a first message but I'll see how keen she responds.

Nope haven't heard back in 2 days, I think I'll reach out again in a couple days as it can't hurt. I won't ask her out again as a first message but I'll see how keen she responds.

Good idea! I like it.