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    How i can get him back

    I did hurt my boyfriend so much that he says now he is still deeply in love with me but he canít be with at least now , he says he is hurt that he canít be in a relationship with me but at the same time he canít be fully apart from me so he wants us to be friends , he texts me almost daily he cares about my studies and asks me out , he keeps on saying he miss me and giving signals he still love me but he is hurt and canít be back with me , i begged him back and i appologized for my mistakes with him but he still refuses to come back and i canít see him a friend .
    I am confused i donot know what to do and i love him so much
    Should i agree that we deal as friends that he might come back one day ?? How can i get him back ??

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    What does he claim you did to hurt him? Are you sure he doesn't just wants to fwb rather than date? You need to give him space to reflect and miss you. Stop suffocating and clinging, it will push him away further.
    Originally Posted by Jehad
    I did hurt my boyfriend so much that he says now he is still deeply in love with me but he canít be with at least now. Should i agree that we deal as friends that he might come back one day ?

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    I had alot of guy friends and i used to hang out with them and he didnot like that he gets so much jealous and i used to refuse his rejections regarding my friends
    Should i reply his texts or agree to hang out with him if he asks again ??

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    You're not compatible. Choose a bf who is more free spirited like you. He can hang out with all of his girl friends and you can hang out with all of your guy friends, and that's not an issue. I don't believe in staying friends with exes. Your new bf won't appreciate you being in constant communication with a guy you had sex with, and how you didn't want that relationship to end.

    Tell your ex for your own good and closure, that you two will no longer be in communication, and then block his number. Sounds like you've got a wide social circle so you shouldn't have any problem finding a new bf when the time is right.

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    Don't date or be fwb or friends with anyone who displays controlling, jealous or possessive behaviors like this. He was manipulative and is still being manipulative running around telling you "how much you hurt him". Read up on dating red flags, he has a bunch of them.

    Delete and block him. Don't second guess your decision to dump him, it was your instinct and intelligence making that decision. Do not recant under pressure. Talk to a trusted adult about this. You need to avoid people who exhibit this behavior.
    Originally Posted by Jehad
    I had alot of guy friends and i used to hang out with them and he didnot like that he gets so much jealous and i used to refuse his rejections regarding my friends
    Should i reply his texts or agree to hang out with him if he asks again ??

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    Limit your contact with your ex. Go over your reasons again for wanting to get back with someone like this. If you're feeling guilty for having a lot of male friends, go over why you feel that way and if it's your society that's imposing those feelings on you. If you deep down feel that you're all over the place and don't know what you're doing or not hanging around good company, go over that too.

    The fact that you're doing one thing and yet want something else that isn't happy with you doing that one thing suggests to me that you are deeply insecure overall about who you are and what you're doing with your life and what kinds of company you keep. You're basically confused and confusing yourself.

    Go over all that and figure out the type of person you want to be and figure out your friends properly. Don't speak to your ex. Ain't nobody got time for that. He can figure out his own hurting on his own.

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    Why do you want him back when he won't let you have friends of the opposite sex? To be honest, that's kind of weird.

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    This will tell you how you can make him desire for you

    2 Weird ways to make him feel impulsive love for you

    Step 1 - Become emotionally in-tune with him.

    If you ever want a man to feel a deep intense, almost addictive love for you, then you need to become emotionally in-tune with him. What do I mean when I say emotionally in-tune? I basically mean that you have to connect with the emotional part of his mind rather than the logical part. Most women donít get this; in fact, most women dress sexy, cook great meals and try to logically convince a man to like them. But that doesnít work because theyíre missing the most important element of the puzzle. That element is ďEMOTIONĒ.
    Have you ever seen a woman who can make any guy go absolutely crazy for her and do the dumbest and sometimes even embarrassing things to please her? And at the same time have you ever seen a woman who does everything right, yet she is never able to get the love or attention she desperately desires from her man?
    What is the difference between the two? The woman in my first example understands the critical concept of becoming emotionally in-tune with a man and as a result, she is able to make a man literally dance to her tunes, while most women try really hard yet struggle. Bottom line is that you will always struggle with men unless you become emotionally in-tune with them, if you donít get this, then you are only spinning your wheels without getting anywhere.
    Iíll show you a ridiculously easy way to do it in a moment, but before that let me give you the
    Second step.

    Step 2 - Establish yourself as a valuable asset in his mind.

    Why are diamonds so valuable? Is it because they look pretty? Is it because theyíre expensive? The fact is, diamonds are valuable because theyíre rare and not easy to acquire. Theyíre perceived as something very valuable. In order to make a guy go almost nuts about you, you need to present yourself as a super valuable asset, exactly like a diamond.
    You need to position yourself in a way, that he would be absolutely scared to lose you and would even fight to keep you for as long as possible. You see, something weird gets triggered inside a man when he knows that youíre this valuable asset. His animalistic instinct awakens and he feels a strong inner drive to protect you, fight for you and never let you go.
    Every guy is a born hunter, they all have a hunter instinct embedded deep within their subconscious mind and this only awakens when a woman presents herself as this special prize to be won. During this process, a man canít help but act on this instinct and will chase you as hard as humanly possible.
    In fact, he will feel absolutely lucky to have you around him and will even value whatever time and the attention he gets from you. If you want to know something more bout this be sure to personally message me..
    All the Best...
    Aarif

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    Hello ENA, I am a member of another forum and the OP posted her question there too, what she's not sharing with you here is that the reason her boyfriend was upset and broke up with her, was not because she had male friends (he was fine with that) but because she chose to spend more time with them than she did with him, her own boyfriend. He spoke with her about it, but nothing changed, she still chose to spend more time with them than with him.

    I don't know about you but that would upset me too, a lot, it would cause me to think that my boyfriend cared more about his friends than he cared about me.

    To her credit, she realizes her mistake, feels extremely remorseful, has apologized to him many times, but sadly I think he has lost trust and once trust is lost, it's almost impossible to regain. I advised her to give him time and space to work out his feelings and hopefully he will miss her and want to give their relationship another chance.

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    What forum?
    Originally Posted by MsLondonB
    I am a member of another forum and the OP posted her question there too

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