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    Originally Posted by SuperPig
    I don’t think I do. I roll my eyes a lot...
    family nasty to her? Errrm depends who you ask, he’s become very sensitive of late
    Really? That's pretty dismissive, contemptuous, insulting and ultimately childish.

    When someone tells you that they no longer care if you are gone, that's a neon flashing sign that your relationship is in deep deep trouble and needs immediate repair work and a change of the dynamic. She sounds completely exhausted, mentally, emotionally, physically and these petty arguments, it takes two to argue, so you are a big big part of the problem. Do you know how to back down? Do you keep at it until you "win"?

    People get fed up which is quite different from suddenly being sensitive. When people get fed up, they are no longer tolerant of bad behavior and if bad behavior continues long enough....you'll find yourself without a wife, only half your stuff, and a big child support bill every month. Is that what you want? Probably not. Start talking to each other like two human beings, with some empathy. Stop picking petty fights, stop focusing on sex and start working on your emotional bond and communication first. She won't be feeling sexy until issues are resolved between you.

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    Have you considered marriage counseling? How much do you contribute with the baby?

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    When you go in for a hug, are there still some unresolved issues between you?
    You two need to resolve your differences first before you go in for some sort of physical contact.
    Not the other way around.

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    Maybe it's a good time to put down the resentments for a moment and try and get back to some semblance of friendliness in the relationship. Both of you have to get along in order to have something work. Congratulations on the new baby. Be there for each other and don't break each other down. Grow stronger together, not weaker.

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    Originally Posted by SuperPig
    My wife and I have been married over 3 years now. We have a beautiful girl who is 14 months. I’ve been down lately as I lost my mum 6 months ago. So a hormonal wife and a grieving husband. So we’ve been getting into petty arguments. But every time we argue My wife is asking ME to leave HER after every disagreement or says “we should go our separate ways”.. Why would she say this ?

    Our sex life is non existent since the baby. I took condoms on holiday recently and she said “no way” and told me to stay on the other side of the bed. Every time I touch her i get a “get off me”

    Any advice ? Is my marriage over ?
    Your wife should see a counselor ASAP. She may have depression or post-partum depression. 14 months without ANY intimacy and telling you not to touch her? I'd have given her the ultimatum or either go to counseling or we're getting divorced. No matter what anyone tells you, sex is one of the most important things in a marriage. If you're not having sex with your spouse you're basically roommates or friends, nothing else. Period and end of discussion on that point.

    I divorced my wife after 9 months of no sex and no affection. I'm much much MUCH happier now and dating someone who has the same ideas of the importance of intimacy and sex as I do. Your child will suffer MORE with parents who are married and miserable than parents who are divorced and happy. Your wife no longer loves you and you're no longer a priority to her.

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