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Thread: Dating after becoming a widow... Too soon?

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    I wll also say some men who were married a long time or have young kids sometimes try to couple up quickly because they are simply not used to doing things alone. A family friend is a widower and his wife did everything - managed their social calendar, cooked, paid the bills etc, and he was totally lost when she died. Completely and utterly. I mean, of course he had worked (was retired) and had a life, but it was really, really hard. Resist the temptation to jump right in there.

    You don't need to feel sorry for him - just know that its not the right thing to jump into a physical relationship with someone with kids who you have little in common with

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    My biggest concern is he would be distracting himself from the grief he needs to process by jumping into a new relationship. That grief is still there waiting for him and eventually he has to deal with it, or it will deal with him.

    Imagine being all-in with someone who at a later date, hits the wall. A death of wife, loss of a mother and a family unit is a catastrophic loss. I can't help but feel a little suspect here about what's really going on here.

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