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    Am I being petty?

    So one of my co workers who only works every other weekend randomly texted me and asked me to send her a picture of a schedule so she can see if she gets booked during the week. I sent her. now she made it habit to now texting during the week asking for a pic of the schedule I'm starting to get annoyed because she never use to texts me for that subject matter and most of the time when she comes in on very second weekend the new scedule for the following week is usually posted for most part. How can i proceed?

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    How awkward. I'd say I changed my phone plan and for some reason some messages are not getting through anymore/reception is spotty. It's probably a lot more reliable for her to check it herself every week. Since you work with each other, keep things cordial and professional. Don't argue about it.

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    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    How awkward. I'd say I changed my phone plan and for some reason some messages are not getting through anymore/reception is spotty. It's probably a lot more reliable for her to check it herself every week. Since you work with each other, keep things cordial and professional. Don't argue about it.
    I wouldn't make things up. I would just say, "You know, it would be much easier for me if you could look at the schedule when you are here... it doesn't change".

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    Originally Posted by Camber 2019
    I wouldn't make things up. I would just say, "You know, it would be much easier for me if you could look at the schedule when you are here... it doesn't change".
    I like this idea too.

    OP, why does she have your cellphone number?

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    I mean how often are we talking about here? Once a week? I wouldn't drop what you are doing to go text her immediately, but....it seems like a pretty much no effort kind of a thing If she is asking more often, then "hey you know schedule doesn't change once posted" would suffice. If you want to go the passive aggressive route, then just "sorry busy right now" and then "forget" to do it. In other words get really flaky about it and let her find someone else.

    One thing is that you acknowledged yourself that the schedule may or may not be posted when she is there. So if it isn't she does need to ask people. Not sure this is something worth getting in a huff about. Better approach to work is to be nice to people and get along because you never know when it may pay back dividends for you and how.

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    Or you could ask the manager to post the schedule on e-mail...

    Better yet, SHE could ask.

    If all else fails, I think the slow response or forgetting will do the trick!

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    I would suggest she ask the manager to post the schedule because you get busy and can't be counted on to send it to her in a timely way. I recently had this situation with a former neighbor who moved a few blocks away and got into the habit of wanting me to text her when the school bus was coming and to give her other information about school bus timing at the time I was at the bus stop. I rarely take my phone out while waiting for the bus -on purpose because I am keeping an eye on my son and the street to see the bus. And as soon as the bus comes I run upstairs to do my morning routine without looking at my phone. I want to be "nice" to my former neighbor but realized I had to nip it in the bud. So I texted her that I run upstairs as soon as the bus comes, told her the range of when the bus comes, and she got the message. For now. Why does your coworker feel entitled to use you as her personal assistant in this way? Has she done you similar favors or do you need her to? I'd also consider that. Those situations are really annoying, i can relate.

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    And remember... people can only take advantage of you if you let them!

    If you politely say "No" to someone and they get upset with you, no love loss, chances are they didn't really like you, they were just using you.

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    Seems like the least efforted way you could win some brownie points with a co-worker, but if you really don't want to, then you gotta do you. Would you be petty if perhaps you found yourself in the parking lot after your shift, and simply not wanting to back into the building for her sake? I don't think so. Even if you were inside and just shrugged it off and ignored the text, I wouldn't necessarily say so. But actually getting upset over it? That's a pretty low tipping point.

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    She wrote she is starting to get annoyed -that doesn't sound like overblown "upset" and she's right to check in with herself so that it doesn't become worse-she didn't mention whether this coworker is known for asking for too many favors in general, etc.

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