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Thread: Should I be mad?

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    I'm still trying to see in the OP where some people got that he's a slob or that there's "clutter".

    I got that his girlfriend randomly decides to move his stuff somewhere else and doesn't bother telling him. THAT is a problem.

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    Hire a maid! Problem solved.

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    She chooses to prioritize her desire to move things over how you feel. Which is disrespectful. And a relationship is hollow without respect.

    When my partner and I first moved into together, we had one of our rare arguments over a similar issue. He was moving my stuff without communicating with me about it, I snapped at him one day while needing to go and not being able to find my stuff. From there, we talked out a solution when I got home. He apologized, I apologized, we both got to listen to where the other was coming from.

    I'm imagining if he would have ' taken it hard ' to be reminded not to touch my stuff. We wouldn't have lasted.

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    Originally Posted by itsallgrand
    She chooses to prioritize her desire to move things over how you feel. Which is disrespectful. And a relationship is hollow without respect.

    When my partner and I first moved into together, we had one of our rare arguments over a similar issue. He was moving my stuff without communicating with me about it, I snapped at him one day while needing to go and not being able to find my stuff. From there, we talked out a solution when I got home. He apologized, I apologized, we both got to listen to where the other was coming from.

    I'm imagining if he would have ' taken it hard ' to be reminded not to touch my stuff. We wouldn't have lasted.
    I think it's perfectly understandable that you snapped at him and I also relate to apologizing to restore peace because of the sense of wishing you had not reacted by snapping but rather expressing your frustration in a less harsh way. Seems like a normal reaction to me but as an outsider of course and I can see where the OP is struggling with how to approach this calmly -it feels awful not to be able to find your things in a deadline situation.

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    Ohh what a problem

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