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Thread: Heís 9 Years Younger and I Donít Know What Iím Doing

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    Heís 9 Years Younger and I Donít Know What Iím Doing

    So thereís a person I work with who is a whopping 9 years younger than me. I originally was intrigued because he looked so much like someone I enjoy to watch on YouTube (but that person is older and a YouTube personality).
    Anyway, this kid is the sweetest thing and he typically jokes with me and ask about games Iím playing cause I mentioned that I do in fact play video games.
    Anyway, Iím not sure thereís an actual attraction, but I wanna get to know him? He asked me to teach him to play a certain game once I learned to play it since it can be kinda complicated.

    Anyway, I posted this here because heís quite shy and I can be at times too, but I was thinking about asking him to join a discord server Iím in that has ages 18-30. Heís 18, by the way. Iím 27.

    I know I have absolutely no business wanting to be friends with him, but he honestly makes my day better sometimes cause heís just sweet and so positive all the time and Iíd love to be able to have that sort of friendship(?) outside of work.

    I apologize if this is in the wrong category.

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    Since you work together keep it strictly friends. That fact that you are attracted to him may make that difficult, but you may want to start going out socially more, get on some dating apps and redirect your attraction toward men you don't work with and in your age group.

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    Since you work together keep it strictly friends. That fact that you are attracted to him may make that difficult, but you may want to start going out socially more, get on some dating apps and redirect your attraction toward men you don't work with and in your age group.
    Don't see such a big problem here.

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    Where?....
    Originally Posted by polishbear65
    Don't see such a big problem here.

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    This kid is infatuated with you...so be aware of that. Set boundaries if he gets a little too excited.

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    It's unwise to pursue him no matter who he looks like. Therapy may help you get out of your head and stop crushing on inappropriate targets. So would joining some clubs, groups, sports, getting out more and getting on dating apps.
    Originally Posted by ClaireDarling
    I originally was intrigued because he looked so much like someone I enjoy to watch on YouTube. Iíd love to be able to have that sort of friendship(?) outside of work.

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    If you were a guy asking about your attraction to a just-out-of-high-school girl at work that likes video games, you would be told the same thing--to look elsewhere for romance!

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    Keep things professional. I think you're lonely. Try meeting others outside of work at hobbies, other engagements, activities, join different business associations. Get out and be a bit more involved with the community. I'm very sorry but your scope is extremely small if you're seeking the friendship of an 18 year old for the purpose of video games at the age of 27, someone you know at work too. Don't sabotage your career. Go out and meet more of your peers at your own age and engage with other people who have similar interests. The whole point is to expand and meet new people.

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    I would just like to mention that at 18, he is in a totally different frame of mind and stage of life than you. I very much doubt that he wants the same things you do, or even thinks about those things.

    But if you still want to get to know him on a strictly platonic basis, having him on your Discord server might be cool. You could game together that way. But keep in mind that not only are you seeing him at work, you will then be interacting with him during your free time, so you'll be communicating with him a whole lot. Try to remain friendly and professional.

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    Honestly, a woman who was 29 pursued my 18 year old brother and it did NOT end well. Guys are less mature than women at 18 and you will have little in common except work and his hot bod. Honestly, he is a teenager, even though he is a legal adult. Enjoy the he is easy on the eyes, but go out to where men 25+ hang out and volunteer where they volunteer.

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