Originally Posted by bluecastle
So, so very good, this.
Zoe, they have not had sex, if I've read this correctly. The have "done other little bits and fondled," during which OP has had the impression that he isn't totally into it. Most of us, I think, know the feeling of someone not quite being totally into it, be it the first weekend, the second month, or a weird patch in the middle of the 20th year.
As Rose as pointed out, I think OP is a bit anxious, in general. She's used to "bad relationships and had a long line of men who just wanted the sex," but perhaps still sees the "the sex" as an essential cornerstone of gauging whether or not a man is into her. So, instead of hearing that he "wants to make sure it doesn’t mess the relationship up because he wants us to last" as purely an expression of both interest in her and who he is, she hears at least a tinge of him not being into her, which gets tested through another tepid round of other bits and fondling.
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