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    Originally Posted by Camber 2019
    Thanks Cherylyn! This is so true. We all need to think of ourselves, because if we are unwell, those that matter to us the most will suffer.
    That's right. When I was younger, I always wanted to be a "do gooder" and I've since changed. Nowadays, I do what I want when I want on my own terms. I maintain peace with everyone all the while. I've found inner peace this way and my pace is no longer frenetic.

    Regarding disrespectful people, all you can do is choose NOT to engage. Learn to walk away or avoid them. I've tried everything and nothing else works. Go your own way in this life and create healthy boundaries for yourself forever.

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    So... my sister who has turned my family against EVERY woman I have ever been with sent me a Christmas card and my Son a Christmas card. My card did not have my wife's name on it (OK, we aren't married, but have been living together happily and in love for 11 years).

    My wife's response upon handing me the mail... "Your sister is such a (insert "c" word here)". LMAO. The funny thing is my wife won't even bat an eyelash at this!

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    Originally Posted by Camber 2019
    So... my sister who has turned my family against EVERY woman I have ever been with sent me a Christmas card and my Son a Christmas card. My card did not have my wife's name on it (OK, we aren't married, but have been living together happily and in love for 11 years).

    My wife's response upon handing me the mail... "Your sister is such a (insert "c" word here)". LMAO. The funny thing is my wife won't even bat an eyelash at this!
    She sounds mean. Is there a reason though why you both won't tie the knot? Is it political?

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    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    She sounds mean. Is there a reason though why you both won't tie the knot? Is it political?
    Both been married twice before, we're happy, so we figured.. why change things! She's my beneficiary in my will...

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    Originally Posted by Camber 2019
    Both been married twice before, we're happy, so we figured.. why change things! She's my beneficiary in my will...
    I totally get that. My husband's best friend has been with his partner for 23 years and never a need or any talk of marriage. They're one of my favourite couples to hang out with. Super relaxed, easy going and fun. Good people. That's great that you're both not letting the cards get to you. The holidays somehow always bring out the best and worst in people.

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    Well, I didn't call or text anyone on Christmas. In 40 years of living away from my family I can honestly say I have only receive ONE call from my Mother on Christmas. Every other year I am expected to call first. I did receive a voice message on the home phone while we were out with the dogs, and it was from my Mother and she said "Hi <my name> calling to wish you a merry Christmas. Not my wife, not my Son, just me. I texted back later saying I received the message and Merry Christmas to Mom and Dad and love from us ALL. Never heard anything back.

    But, 3 days later my sister texted me to ask if I had a nice Christmas -3 days later???. No doubt Mom directing her to check up on me. I didn't respond. Haven't heard anything since.

    I wish they would just stop contacting me. Why on earth do they insist on (trying to) torment me?

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