Lily1578 Posted September 18, 2019 Share Posted September 18, 2019 So, my friend, who I will call r, and me were chatting. We discovered that we both used to have a crush on mutual friend a. R and me were talking about how crazy that was and about how r needed to tell a. I met up with a later this week, and, thinking r had told her, started talking about how it was crazy that me and r had a crush on her. It turns out that a has a crush on r now, and didn’t believe me about r liking her. I texted r about this, and she was very upset that I had told a about r liking her. R is in her first ever relationship right now, and it is with a guy that me and a don’t know. What should I do to repair the friendship and ease the romantic tension between r and a? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 18, 2019 Share Posted September 18, 2019 Stay out of your friend's love lives. Learn that a good friend can be confided in and not spread stuff around. Don't betray your friends like this. me and r had a crush on her. R is in her first ever relationship right now, and it is with a guy that me and a don’t know. Link to comment
Lily1578 Posted September 18, 2019 Author Share Posted September 18, 2019 R told me she was going to tell a, and I didn’t know she didn’t, I brought it up so we could have a laugh about how we all used to like each other, I also didn’t know that a kinda still liked r Link to comment
Camber 2019 Posted September 18, 2019 Share Posted September 18, 2019 My head is spinning... Link to comment
Lily1578 Posted September 18, 2019 Author Share Posted September 18, 2019 Same man, same Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted September 18, 2019 Share Posted September 18, 2019 R (a girl) is upset that A (a guy) knows about her feelings while she's in a relationship with someone else. They're all friends/know each other. Yes, it was inappropriate for you to speak about your friends so loosely. Apologize to both of them (R and A) and excuse yourself out of this situation. I would also shut down any ideas from A and explain that your friend is unavailable and please be respectful. R is probably more upset at your betrayal of confidence. Your friendship there may have taken a hit. Be realistic with that friendship. Next time, don't do this again. If you feel you're getting excited about your crushes and talk about that sort of thing, cool yourself off before hanging out with your friends. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted September 18, 2019 Share Posted September 18, 2019 Let it blow over, maybe she'll forgive you. But next time don't gossip.R told me she was going to tell a, and I didn’t know she didn’t, I brought it up so we could have a laugh about how we all used to like each other, I also didn’t know that a kinda still liked r Link to comment
RedDress Posted September 18, 2019 Share Posted September 18, 2019 Be honest - if A asked you on a date right now, would you say “yes”? I can’t help but feel (and I’m sure R feels this way) that you had “other” motives for telling A about R’s crush. Especially now that R is in a relationship and is unavailable. I mean... it’s not that funny? It’s a vague chuckle at best? It wasn’t your story to tell. I can understand if R feels betrayed. I think you should just apologize and stay out of it... and most importantly, don’t be putting any moves on A. Perception is reality in this situation. Right now, IMO, the perception would be that you were trying to sabotage any potential they may have had. Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted September 19, 2019 Share Posted September 19, 2019 Stay out of this. Don't be messy. Mind your own business and focus on your own life otherwise you will ruin your friendships. Be smart. Don't get involved and play it safe! Link to comment
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